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What You Should Do When You’re Angry

Do you ever feel like all you do is complain? Maybe you feel like you overreact to a comment or offense instead of letting it roll off.

Usually, I am pretty chill, and it takes a lot to get me riled up. But, for some reason, it seemed like every little thing got on my last nerves this week. It started when I ordered a dining table and chairs for the patio. I was so excited to finally find one I liked, and I quickly placed the order. It was getting time for the set to be delivered, so I checked the tracking information only to find out it was being shipped to our old address.

The next issue this week was on Wednesday morning. I took our trash can to the curb Tuesday night since the trash pickup is Wednesday. I heard the trash truck coming down the road, so I went and looked out my window. That’s when I noticed that it was a new truck that had a mechanical arm that grabbed the trash can and emptied it into the truck. I even commented to Joe about how cool that was until the driver misjudged where the trash can was and hit our mailbox instead.

Finally, a random comment on one of my platforms wasn’t very nice. I have been blessed with the best followers and rarely have to deal with rude comments. After stewing on the comment more than I should have, I called my sister and asked her why my first reaction was always wrong.

Instead of praying about the situation, I immediately find myself stewing, grumbling, complaining, arguing, getting mad, or calling a friend to commiserate with. I never think that maybe I’m having a bad day or am being overly sensitive. It never occurs to me that the person on the other end could be upset about something else, and I end up being the recipient of displaced anger. Nope! Instead, I want to vent, lash out, and stew about the situation.

Matthew 5:38-40

38 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth.’39 But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also. 40 And if anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, hand over your coat as well.

It is so easy to get dragged into a verbal fight when we feel like we are being disrespected or mistreated. Turning the other cheek, or choosing not to respond, can be challenging. But today, I found a way that made it a little easier.

After stewing for about 30 minutes, I put away my computer to take a cat nap. When I got out my cozy throw blanket, Lucy Lu came running and jumped up on the couch with me. This bundle of fur cozied up beside me, and quickly fell asleep. I sat there petting her and started thanking the Lord for my many blessings.

Psalm 116:12

12 What shall I render to the Lord For all His benefits toward me?

Psalm 103:2

Bless the Lord, O my soul, And forget not all His benefits:

James 1:2-4

Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.

It is funny, but you can’t be mad, aggravated, or upset when you start counting your blessings. I’ve always heard you should count to ten before responding when angry. Instead of counting to ten, we need to think of five blessings that the Lord has given us. You will watch your anger melt away and be replaced by a sense of peace and joy.

To God Goes The Glory!

Have A Blessed Day!

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67 Comments

  1. Thank you for sharing “What you should do when angry.” Funny, while I was reading this I felt like I was the author…you and I are on the same page…❤️

  2. Lynn Welch says:

    Great advice! The best I have heard in many years. We all run like crazy women and sometimes (a lot lately) that our orders get messed up. I just place 2 orders for different items and both said it would be the first part of May before receiving them. i started to get upset but had read your post…..I started counting my many, many blessings. Thank You for reminding all of us this important little life lesson.

    Lynn Welch

  3. Melissa Palmer says:

    I’m sorry that you were the recipient of a negative comment. I know it’s easier said than done, but it’s definitely not worthy of taking up space in your head. Unfortunately there are a lot of people with issues nowadays. I’m a social worker (and former therapist), so I usually just attribute rude comments as “poor social skills” or mental illness and move on. I will be the first to admit, though, that if they catch you in the right mood, it can be challenging. I’m glad you were able to put it in perspective! Have a great week.

  4. While angry think of 5 blessings. I love that and have sent to all my children. Such a simple statement but so true.

    Thank you for all you say, honestly I think you are amazing. Have a wonderful day

  5. Thank you so much! I needed to read this, because I feel tired, worn out and unhappy at times. I guess it is a bad week. Thank you.

  6. Great advice. Thank you for sharing.

  7. Betty Cox says:

    Thanks, Tania! I love your posts & get lots of great fashion ideas from you. But mostly, I love your heart! Thanks for a right-on-time message. Blessings to you!

  8. Excellent post. I have done what you did. Today I heard an excellent sermon on James chapter 3. I hope this coming week is better for you.

  9. Thank you for this message….one I needed to hear. May God continue to bless you with many blessings.

  10. I love this! For me, perfect timing to read this. Have been very grumpy lately. I think I’ll re-read it every morning along with my devotional. Thank you Tania

  11. Good advice! I love this idea. Another great Sunday post, Tania. 😊

  12. Gail Fickle says:

    Excellent words!! Praying next week is fabulous.

  13. Marci Hutchison says:

    It is so easy in this day and time to get angry quickly. Counting Blessing’s will melt that stress away soon.
    Thank you for reminding us!

  14. Such words of truth! It’s hard to remain angry when focusing on your blessings.

  15. Cathie Vossler says:

    Beautiful. Thank you for sharing

  16. Thank you.🤗. I often find myself feeling exactly the same. This was a blessing to me to read today .

  17. Deb Wilkin says:

    My favorite post. Thank you.

  18. What a wonderful message. I always enjoy your Sunday messages. Your blog has been such a blessing to me. Thank you for all you do.

  19. Shelly Hebert says:

    Thank you, Tania. I needed these scriptures. I’ve had a similar type of week. This helped me put things in perspective.
    I look forward to your blog every day.

  20. Valerie Hardy says:

    Hi Tania,
    I’ve been following your posts for about a year now, my cousin introduced me to them. We both enjoy them, we are both in the age group for which your posts are intended. Just wanted you to know, you are not alone in your feeling of having a bad day and feeling that you were mistreated. I would feel that way often, then one day I changed my prospective, very unexpectedly…I had a stroke! I was rushed to the emergency room and by God’s wonderful grace, I was given another chance at life. I never thought I would have a medical issue at my age, I thought strokes happen to folks much older. I am still healing, but when I feel the effects that the stroke left me with, I am so grateful that I am alive to enjoy another day. Thank you for all your posts, I enjoy reading them.

    1. Valerie, I’m glad to hear that you are healing. This is what my sister and I were talking about the other day. We grumble about small things, and then when a disaster strikes, we realize how petty those feelings were. We should be grateful every day for the breath we take each morning!

  21. Cathy ALVES says:

    This was a perfect Blog for me today. We have all being in this position. I will think of this blog and how we should handle it the next time it happens. Thank you sharing this message.

    Cathy A

  22. This was a wonderful blog. It was so well thought out and very relatable. We have all been in this position. Thank you for the reminder and especially to look towards our blessings.

  23. Oh, I am so there with you this week. I am usually pretty contained and can handle about anything, but after a few things, similar stacking up on me, and lack of sleep, and an additional. Respiratory infection. I lost my cool this week. So to hear that someone else is going to the same thing gives me comfort in knowing that, even though I fail, we have a loving God.
    I’m starting off this week with a better handle on things hopefully and God in my forefront focus. May he bless you this week also.

    1. Betty Cox says:

      I want you to know God spoke to me through your words…”We have a loving God”. What reassurance!🥰

      If we didn’t need a Savior, Jesus died for nothing.

      Thanks.

  24. Pamela Whitaker says:

    Thank you Tania for your words today. The Lord used you to send them to me as I needed this message so very much!

  25. I have always thought that your nature is one that is very easy going so I had to smile reading this and can relate. You are amazing! Just look at how many followers you have and we are all thankful that you have taken the time to provide us with such beautiful photos and wonderful personal short stories for us to read before we look through your post. This in itself reflects how many people enjoy hearing from you. There are hundreds of blogs out there. Thank God for yours!

  26. Leah Hagedorn says:

    You are an inspiration, Tanya! I hope you realize when you solicit feedback regarding garments we are commenting on the fit of the garment and not about you. You are a generous, kind and loving Child of God. Love the picture of you snuggling with your little dog! Hold your head high and keep on doing what you do.

  27. Dottie W. says:

    I don’t always read your blog on Sundays because there’s no fashion content, but I’m glad I did today because it absolutely resonated with me. I worked with a gal who always seemed to be able to give others the benefit of the doubt. It’s really a wonderful quality, and the world definitely needs more people who think like that! I’m glad you were able to get over your initial reaction and move on. Just keep on doing what you’re doing. As well as your fashion content, the family stories are always so entertaining!

  28. Annette C says:

    Thank you for the wonderful reminder! I appreciate you and you fabulous posts. So very helpful each day!

  29. Suzonne Johnson says:

    I love that you not only show us how to find cute clothes and shoes, but you feed our souls with scripture. I had a group of friends who I went to school with since first grade come for a weekend and one of them introduced us to your site! It has inspired me and I’ve had such fun!! Thank you for what you do!!
    Suzonne Johnson

  30. Nancy Buckner says:

    I love your Sunday postings! They always hit the mark!

  31. This post is perfect timing for happenings in my world and my response to them. Thanks for this beautiful reminder to count our blessings.

  32. What a wonderful post to start the day (and week) thank you!

  33. I love your Sunday posts. They always make me feel better. Today’s was great.. we do have so many blessings. which are easily forgotten when we are angry or when we think that things are not going our way Thank you for that. …it was good to hear. I’m going to try that next time.

  34. Ginger Hiller says:

    I needed this post today, so I thank God that he laid this topic upon your heart to share with us. THANK YOU!

  35. I love your clothing posts but really love your Sunday posts!
    Give yourself grace. All of us Christian’s get frustrated and irritable and God understands.
    This will be a better week! ❤️

  36. A beautiful post ,Tania! I’ve been practicing to think of 3 things I’m thankful for when I feel very discouraged about my life. I love your suggestion of 5 blessings. Thank you so much for your posts. Actually, they are one of my blessings. I’m always thankful that I have found your blog. It has made a positive difference in more ways than one to me.❤️🙏

  37. SUZANNE KNOPPS says:

    excellent words today. I needed this!
    Thank you. YOU are a blessing.

  38. Jenniffer Groski says:

    I really needed to read this today. I am going through a very trying season and I could very easily lash out and let my anger and sense of earthly justice make me bitter. God is sovereign and I trust His plans! I have so many, many blessings and receive far more than I give. Thank you for putting in all these wonderful verses to put my head and heart on the Lord.

  39. Tania, thank you for your Sunday messages. This one especially touched me. I really appreciate all you do and the time and effort you put into your postings. Have a beautiful day!

  40. Thank you for this sweet reminder. I have been doing a lot of praying and it is helping sweetie. Sorry you had a bad week but our Lord will have something better for you. He has the plan for us and we need to not try and control but pray he will lead us the right way. God Bless. Mrs B

  41. Laurie Ann says:

    Love the post! You always do a wonderful job at putting things into perspective, thank you for that 😊
    I hope you have a better week!

  42. Amen. Don’t let the World pull you down instead let Him lift you up. I lean on Romans 8:28

  43. Glada St. Clair says:

    Well, I hit the brickwork on one side of my driveway when backing in to unpack groceries. I’m right there with you.

  44. Laurie Harvey says:

    I love your Sunday devotionals. Thanks for sharing so faithfully!

  45. Sue McKamely says:

    I am definitely going to count my blessings when I become angry or sensitive toward a perceived slight. Your advice is spot on. I appreciate all that you do and look forward to your email each morning! Thanks, Tania!

  46. I’ve had those days too. Contention isn’t worth it. Good job on how you walked through this! I needed to read this today! Thank you!

  47. Leslie P. says:

    Thank you so much for the reminder, I needed this, sometimes we forget and we allow other things to distract instead of focusing on the many blessings that God has given to us.

  48. We all struggle with what you have gone through. I am terrible at complaining I pray that I stop complaining so much. Frustrated with so many things now days especially the state of our country. I keep reminding myself that God is in control and he is. We all have to remember that, even when, someone makes a rude comment to us. I agree it is more about them than us we happen to be on the other end at that time and it is hard to take at times. Love your blog Tania you are so sweet and very helpful with your style. I love to see what is coming next and thank you for all your verses it keeps a lot of us going and God Bless you, Joe, your dog and your family.

  49. Thanks Tania, I needed to hear this today.

  50. Cheryll Sampson says:

    I love all your posts, but the Sunday one is my favorite. I love the idea of counting blessings rather than just counting before responding in anger to a situation.

  51. Kathy Silvestri says:

    That spoke to me, thank you for sharing.

    1. Marie Bell says:

      That spoke to me as well. I’m a teacher and this is a trying time of year. I’ve felt the last couple of weeks my fuse getting shorter and shorter. In my prayer time on the way to work I’m trying daily to thank the Father for all the abundance of blessings I have . Gratitude changes the attitude. Thanks for this post!

  52. Good Sunday Morning,
    First I like your idea of thinking of five blessings from the Lord when it would be so easy to become angry. Recently I had two good friends who passed. They lived a life of service for others–true children of God! At my age, soon to be 80, I realize each day is a gift. I am going to be grateful for the day and the many blessings, which includes reading your blog, first thing every morning. Just keep inspiring and uplifting the rest of us. Thank you for all your hard work! To God goes the glory!

    1. This post really resonated with me. I have a friend who lost her husband three years ago. She has allowed herself to become so negative that she inadvertently repels anyone trying to befriend her. I think God gave you this message just for people in her frame of mind and I’m sharing it with her immediately. Thank you.

  53. Thank you for this post. I had a similar week and needed this reminder. <3

  54. That is a fantastic idea! I struggle with getting angry, especially when I am driving and someone cuts me off, or tailgates me! I will try this tomorrow morning on my way to work. God bless you Tania! (So sorry about the unkind comment on your platform. That must really hurt.). Maybe someday, they will see Jesus through you.

  55. AMANDA HARMON says:

    Thank you so much for sharing. Just what I needed to hear.

  56. Donna Ray says:

    This was so timely for me! Thank you for your words of wisdom. You are a blessing to all who know you!