50 IS NOT OLD | KIND OF FRIENDI am sitting here listening to all the laughter and crazy stories that my daughter and her high school friends are telling. It has made me so happy, and I can’t keep from smiling. They have mostly gone their own separate ways, but once they have gotten together, it is like they are 18 years old again. It is funny to think of all they have been through, there were plenty of fights and breakups. There were plenty of, “I’ll never speak to you again!” but all that is in the rearview mirror now.

It made me think about me and my friends. What kind of friend have I been? Am I fun to be around, or am I caring? To be honest, the answer would be, “not always.” The answer would be the same for my friends, and probably most of you. It is hard to be fun if you have hardships going on in your life. It is hard to be caring if you are busy with your own life.

Here are some of the traits of being a good friend:

  • Be Trustworthy
  • Be Dependable
  • Be Non-Judgmental
  • Be A Good Listener
  • Be A Loyal Friend
  • Be Supportive
  • Be Caring
  • Be Fun To Be Around
  • Know When To Give Space
  • Do Not Spread Gossip About Your Friend
  • Does Not Get Jealous of Good Fortune Of Friends
  • Be Honest
  • Accept Your Friend For Themselves, Don’t Try To Change Them

I love my BFF’s, through thick and thin, and I think they feel the same. It is wonderful to be able to cry on someone’s shoulder in the tough times, and it is great to have someone to call to celebrate the good times. I feel blessed that I have Sandy and Bertha, and I will strive to be a good friend to them.

Here is what Proverbs 22: 24-25 has to say about friends.

24 Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered,
25 or you may learn their ways and get yourself ensnared.
My goal is to be a better friend to my friends, than they are to me, and I hope their goal is the same. The challenge is now for you to also adopt this philosophy. Be that friend, the one others turn to, the one that keeps a secret, the one that is there in the tough times.
Have a blessed Sunday

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  1. Cheryl Wilde says:

    This is an excellent post and a reminder to all of us….especially me to remember what is important. Thank you !!!

  2. Such a nice post Tania, old friends are worth so much – my friends from NZ are super special to me – they know me inside out – scary at times but also so special!


  3. My BFF and I get together once a week. We used to see each other everyday when we worked together for 25 years. Plus our parents were friends so she’s known me my whole life. Don’t know what I’d do without her! She is my best shopping partner because she is brutally honest. My college BFF died last year and I miss her terribly. Her husband is still a good friend and we try to get together at least every 6 months or so. When my mom died I don’t know what I would have done with out them. Friends are the family we chose!

  4. I have 3 friends from high school and it’s been 50 years (now 63). We cherish our friendship and now that we work part time/are retired we catch up for weekends 2-3 times a year. Have the best time. It’s good to have friends with whom you can easily be yourself. I have other friendships too and the words you’ve written always apply

  5. Nice!!! I am meeting a close friend who I have been friends with for all our adult life. We are doing dinner tonight. This next week, I am getting together with three friends who are new friends. We never met in person but rather on Facebook. Our children are United States Marines. That is how we met and we are all very close. I love your reminder about being fun to be around. I have a lot of sad things going on lately and I also tend to be a very type A serious person. I need to remember to let go of things and lighten up. Thanks for the reminder. Hugs dear.

    1. I love that you are good friends without ever having met. That is how I feel about my readers. I am slowly getting to know several of you through your comments, and you are getting to know me through my posts. I love that the internet can be used for this purpose. ?

  6. Rebecca Purdie says:

    I have two BFFs. Both live in Charlotte, I’m in Greensboro. One has been my friend since elementary school, the other since college. I stopped speaking to them for a few years because the college one told the other something I had said. It caused tension and I said some really ugly hurtful things to the college friend. Missed both terribly but could not let it go. The elementary friend’s mother told her we had been friends far too long to allow someone to break our friendship. I did some searching and realised life is too short. I finally sent both cards and we all apologized.
    Now it is fun, laughter, love, and sometimes some tears. But we are there for each other.
    Get this all three of our husbands are friends as well!
    Enjoy your time with your daughter!

  7. I lost my husband of 28 years the 4th of August after a year long fight with cancer. I know I wouldn’t be standing without my little group. They held me together when I was falling apart, they brought smiles and fun when they knew I was at my breaking point and needed it. I too have vowed to be a better friend and share what they have taught me during this difficult time. I am so blessed to have these people in my life and as I work at putting my life back together, I know I am not alone. Thank you for the post today. It’s started my Sunday with a smile. God bless.

    1. I am so sorry for your loss, but I am thankful that you have a good support group. The extreme hurt, worry, fear, and more is something that a lot of us can not comprehend. I am saying a little prayer for you and your family. I am so glad that I could bring you a little smile to start your day:)

  8. You have inspired me to plan a long weekend with my BFF of 30+ years and catch up on girl time. Thank you!

    1. My sister and her group of high school friends have recently started a yearly get together. They are in all different states, and they plan a meeting spot, and all fly in. They have had a great time!

  9. Proverbs also tells us a friend is closer than a brother. (sorry no chapter or verse number)
    I told you before you are my BFF and I am not going away! I know I am not what I should be, but I am better than I used to be! Love you girl. I think we all need to treat our friends better, and I will!!!

    1. I hope you and Bertha have a fantastic time at the beach. Think of me while you are there. ?

      1. We are thinking about you, can you slip off a couple of days?