If you read yesterday’s blog post, then you know that I am trying to find ways of keeping active to get healthier and lose weight. When we turn 50, it does something to our minds and a lot to our bodies, and losing weight gets harder and harder. We come to a crossroads and we have a choice to make; we can continue to think and act vibrant, or we can start to act and feel old. You would think it would be an easy decision, but so many outside factors influence us, and our choice is harder than it should be.
Society can be very judgemental and not always kind to women after the age of 50. It is amazing to me how critical “they” can be about decisions we make that are personal, and shouldn’t even matter to others. How we dress, wear our hair, or whether we choose to wear makeup or cosmetic procedures should be choices that others don’t weigh in on.
As a woman over 50, if you wear the latest trends in fashion, people may say that you are trying too hard. But, if you don’t keep up with fashions trends, then you are considered old and frumpy. There is also a huge debate on YOUR choice of coloring your hair or letting it go gray. There are many beautiful women who color their hair and who let it go gray. The same holds true for wearing makeup, and while I LOVE wearing makeup, if you choose not to, that is YOUR personal decision and shouldn’t affect me.
Cosmetic procedures are something that scares me, so I’ve steered clear of them and chose to go the route of really good skincare instead. However, that doesn’t mean that I judge those who choose to use Botox, Fillers, or cosmetic procedures. There might come a day when I get brave enough to have a neck lift, and if I do, then it is a personal decision that only applies to me.
Are you wondering why I am on a soapbox today? Part of the reason is that I am tired of women feeling like they aren’t good enough, aren’t relevant, and are over the hill once they turn 50.
The other part is that I am going to talk about losing weight. I want to make it very clear that you are beautiful at any weight, so don’t try losing weight to make yourself more attractive. We look at magazines and online retailers, and for the most part, the models on those pages are 20-30 years old and a size small or extra small. So, when a normal woman like me looks at those models, we judge ourselves and think that we should also look like that.
I’m raising my hand here because I am guilty of all of those feelings. I’ve struggled with gaining and losing 20 lbs for most of my adulthood. I have been on every diet there is, and they all work as long as you stick to the diet. The problem is, we have old eating habits that we revert back to once we go off the diet and the weight creeps back on.
It seems like when a new year rolls around, I always make a resolution to make my health a priority. Like most resolutions, I stick with healthy choices for a while, and then the old habits that are unhealthy have a way of sneaking back. By March, I am back to my old ways, and my health resolution has been thrown to the wayside. I have all of the excuses in the world, I’m too busy, it costs too much to buy fruits and vegetables, I don’t have anyone to exercise with me, Joe doesn’t like my healthy foods, and I don’t want to cook two different meals.
What I’m really saying to myself is that I am not a priority, I’m not important. Let that sink in for a minute.
My son in Tennessee is a Nutrition Coach | Pn1 and CrossFit Coach | CF-OL1, so he started helping me with my food choices. When we first spoke, he asked me what diets I had previously used, which ones I liked, and which ones worked the best for me. Then, he asked me about the foods that I ate and wanted me to choose the veggies and fruits that I like the most. I was shocked to see how my vegetables I liked, especially since I always said that I didn’t like them.
For me, I like intermittent fasting, and a low-carb diet is what worked the best for me in the past. So, we started working on small steps like drinking LOTS of water and cutting out everything else but black coffee or tea. That took a long time to adjust to, but I’ve done it so long now that I don’t miss the creamers. Then, he wanted me to work on eating slower since I tend to inhale my food. That one is still a work in progress. Lol!
Then a couple of months ago, I saw a friend of mine post a before and after photo, and she talked about the weight loss journey she was on. Turns out, she had joined a FaceBook group that is an 8-week program. Every 8 weeks it starts all over again, you pay $40/week for the first 8 weeks, and then the program is free after that., you never have to pay again.
I called my sister and we decided to both join the group (membership is free for your spouse) and to support each other in the journey. You don’t have to have a supportive partner, but it does help to have someone you can talk to about the meals and exercise.
This program uses Intermittent Fasting, and since I am not a morning eater, intermittent fasting appeals to me. I eat between the hours of 12 noon and 8 pm, so I have an 8-hour window to consume my meals. You can have up to 3 meals a day, but I generally eat 2 meals with snacks in-between if I am hungry. Each week the meals and exercises change, and the new meal plans are announced every Thursday night. This is my second round, and so far the food plan has been the same as the first 8 weeks.
Lean proteins, healthy fats, and a couple of cups of vegetables are what most meals consist of each day. You eat meals with no added sugars or processed foods, and you only eat fruit on a week that includes more carbs. In those weeks, I’ll usually eat an apple, berries, or an orange with each meal. For snacks, I usually choose a handful of cashews or almonds. That fills me up and tides me over until it is time for my next meal.
Once a week, you can have a cheat meal to keep from feeling deprived. This is one meal, not the entire day. Lol! Joe and I have chosen to have a date night every Saturday, and I look forward to that meal all week long. I have a glass of wine, eat anything on the menu that I want, and I always have dessert. The waitress will come over and ask if we want to see the dessert menu, and Joe always says no. I pipe up and say, “oh, yes we do!” Lol! That dessert keeps me on track the other six days, so it is worth it to me.
It’s funny, I didn’t even know how much weight I had lost until yesterday morning. Since losing weight wasn’t my primary goal, I hadn’t weighed in about 3 weeks. Right now, I’m down about 25 lbs, and I am thrilled. My goal was to feel better, have more energy, get active, and be healthier overall. The holidays were hard since there were lots of goodies everywhere you looked. I chose Thanksgiving dinner as my cheat meal for the week, and the same will hold true for Christmas.
The next 8-week program will start on May 2nd, and here is the FaceBook group that you need to join first. Sign-ups open on June 23rd at 9 am EST and run through June 29th at 9 pm EST. At sign-ups, they might ask who referred you, if they do, please say Tania Stephens instead of 50 Is Not Old. Lol! They won’t know who 50 Is Not Old is. Hahaha!
I would always recommend that you check with your doctor before starting any kind of exercise or diet program to make sure this is a program suitable for you. After you sign up, you will then go to a different FB group where all of the information will be posted. You will stay in this group from that time forward, and you don’t ever have to sign up again. Videos of the exercises will be posted daily and you can join them live or when it is convenient for you. There is also a mindset coach, two chefs that go live two times a week, extra-credit exercises, and the founder of the program goes live each night at 8 PM ET.
It can be a little overwhelming when you first join, but it doesn’t take long to catch on.
My son is a great coach, and he had me on my way to eating healthier and creating good eating habits. The reason that I joined this program was because of the exercise coaches that post videos. Most of the time I did the modified moves, but any movement at all was my goal. If I lived near my son, he would be able to help me with my exercises, but since that isn’t the case, this group is the next best thing.
You GURLS have been asking for my secret, so I am sharing what I am doing, and this is it.
Here is what the program offers:
Now, let’s talk about my outfit since this is a fashion blog. Lol! I like to layer my clothing when I go for walks so that I stay warm when it is cool outside and can take off items when I get hot. If it is really cold, I will start with my down/feather coat that I LOVE. I’m not sure why I didn’t grab a photo of that, but I’ll add a photo below from the website. The jacket has a fitted waist that allows the puffer to be flattering which is something I’ve not seen before. I ordered a large since I wanted to be able to wear sweatshirts and sweaters under it, and that size works great for me.
I love the cropped funnel neck pullover in Navy Peacoat. The funnel neck is great for extra warmth at your neck, and I love that it is large and oversized, so you aren’t confined like a turtleneck. The pullover is longer in the back than the front, and it also has thumb slots to make it easier to put your sleeves in coats, and it also helps to keep your hands warm. The ribbing is a nice detail and the pullover is soft, and it comes in several other colors. You will find yourself wearing this with jeans when your run to the store or any other errands. I’m wearing a large and you can see that it is plenty large.
On mornings that are cool but not cold, a long sleeve top like this one from Zella is perfect. This tie-dyed quick drying top is a thick but still has stretch to the fabric for movement. The only odd thing about the top is that it has ribbing at the waistline that cinches in the waist. I am wearing a large which fits me fine.
The lightweight knit joggers are the exact pair I had in yesterday’s post, so you can read all about them there if you didn’t see that post.
The Zella ivory slip-on sneakers are great for a quick walk or running errands around town. They are easy on and off and have a comfortable footbed. They also come in black if you are worried about keeping the ivory ones clean. I am wearing my usual 9, and they seem to run TTS.
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