Happy Mother’s Day! If you are a mother or had a mother, you can choose to celebrate Mother’s Day. Mother’s Day can be challenging for many people, and celebrating is not something they want to do. Some have lost their mother, and the day reminds them of their loss. For some, they mourn that they have never been a mother, and they mourn that loss. And others had a mother that was abusive or neglectful, and they don’t want to honor her with a day of celebration.

I have been blessed with a wonderful mother, but that doesn’t mean I always liked her. If you are a mother, you understand that you will make decisions and choices your child will not be happy about. That is the hard part of being a mom. I have had an “I hate you” thrown at me many times for not allowing my child to go to a party, out on a date, or have a snake as a pet. I knew they didn’t mean it; they were just disappointed with my decision and were acting out of frustration.

But, for some people, their “I hate you” was sincere. They weren’t acting out of frustration but out of desperation. Neglect and abuse are not our normal thoughts when we think of a parent. A child is supposed to be wanted, loved, and cherished, but sadly, that is not always the case.

We can’t choose our parents, but many children of bad parents actually thrive. They overcome their situation, and they go to become productive members of society. They become the parent that they wished they would have had.

No matter what kind of earthy parent you had, you have a HEAVENLY father who is with you and will always be with you. You were created for a purpose and were no accident to the Lord. The Lord does not make mistakes, even if we don’t understand our “why.”

Psalms 139:14

14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.

Luke 12:7

Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.

If you have/had an awesome mom and dad, that is fabulous, but if your parents weren’t the best, you can have confidence that YOU were put here for a reason. The Lord loves you exactly the way that you are. He has a plan for you, and part of that plan might put you in undesirable situations. But that situation is what is unpleasant, not you. You are His child, and you are loved!

Today, give thanks for the love of your Heavenly Father and praise His Holy Name! Then, hug/call/kiss or forgive your earthly mother and wish her a Happy Mother’s Day if possible.

To God Goes The Glory!

Have A Blessed Day!

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  1. Tania that post was so moving. I was not blessed with children but I am blessed to be have my mother still in my life. I just had a wonderful mother’s day weekend in Ocean City MD with my mother and sister. my favorite ladies!!! I hope you he had a great b day and Mother’s Day. Also for all the gurls who are nurses hope you had a wonderful nurses week.

  2. Thank you for this email. This is never addressed it seems. I am 62 and my mother abandoned myself and my 4 siblings when I was five. She never looked back. I have come to terms with it but I also see as a mother now how much I missed out on, how I deserved to be loved and cherished by my mother. I was lucky my father was wonderful and raised all five of us with the help of my grandparents.
    Thank you for pointing out that mother’s arent always wonderful. Love your posts!!

  3. Peggy Eaton says:

    You make 63 look great – more like 53! Happy Mother’s Day and birthday to you. You certainly look like your mother.

    Have a blessed birthday week!


  4. I love this post. I have the most precious mom but there are many who can not say the same. What a wonderful reminder that they are loved and cherished by their Heavenly Father.

  5. Anita Gaulf says:

    Thank you, Tania for your great post not only everyday but especially on Sunday. I love it when you say “ To God goes the Glory!”

    Happy Birthday 🎂 and have a spectacular Mother’s Day💗💓❣️

  6. Happy Mother’s Day.

  7. Happy birthday and Happy Mother’s Day🎂💐☀️
    Wise words, Tania

  8. Glada St. Clair says:

    Very good article

  9. Jennifer Schewe says:

    Yes, please remember in prayer on this day; those who have lost their monther, had a neglectful or abusive mother or never had a mother and those who desperately want to be a mother and who have lost a child, are struggling to have children or cannot have children. Remember that this day can bring them grief and pain.

  10. Cheryll Sampson says:

    Happy birthday and Happy Mother’s Day! Such a great blog today.

  11. Ginger Hiller says:

    Thank you for this, Tania!

  12. Meredith Wiggins says:

    Happy Mother’s Day and Happy Birthday!! You are doubly blessed today!! Loved your post – full of insight and compassion. I can relate to so much, having my son after several years of infertility tests and procedures and also losing my Mom five years ago. I count my blessings every day but have compassion in my heart for what others have experienced. Thankful for our Heavenly Father who loves us so much!! 💖

  13. Debby Russell says:

    Happy Mother’s Day!
    So true! I was not happy with some of my mom’s choices after she divorced my dad, but I loved her to pieces! She didn’t like some of my choices either. I miss her SO much. My mother in law has dementia so it’s rough on Mother’s Day. I remember the love they had for me! I know I will see my mom again someday!

    1. I agree with your comments! Through it all God’s grace was sufficient!

  14. Your words from God are always a blessing

  15. Such a beautiful post. It brought me to tears. I had a lovely morning with my adopted son and his wife yesterday. We talked about his birthparents, known and unknown. I am going to share your post with him and know he will find comfort in it. Happy Mother’s Day to you, all moms, mother figures and our mothers in Heaven.

  16. happy birthday dear..

  17. Such a lovely post! Thankyou❤️

  18. Happy Mother’s Day!

  19. Happy Mother’s Day to all of you . I lost my mother 36 years ago to cancer. I have a wonderful mother-in-law who is 94 and is slow getting around, but her mind is still pretty good. She lives at home with her daughter, she is very blessed I think .

    My daughter’s live far, one in CO and one in the UK. I see them once a year and we try to face time . My only grandchild, 5 year old granddaughter lives in Uk. I miss them all so much.


  20. Happy birthday and happy Mother’s Day!

  21. Thank you for recognizing there are those who mourn because they are not moms. For those dealing with infertility issues, this is a hard day to get through. For years, I would deliberately miss church on this day because it was too painful to watch mothers being recognized when I wasn’t one. Now that I am a mom, I remember those who struggle to become one.

  22. I am new to following your blog!
    Beautifully written for Mother’s Day
    Love following you

  23. Happy Mother’s Day, Tanya. and a very Happy Birthday!

  24. Your words share Truth and Wisdom
    Happy Mother’s Day!

  25. Dana Smithmier says:


  26. Thank you, Tania, for this message. My mom has been gone for 11 years and I miss her every day, but especially today. Thank God for my beautiful children and grandchildren. They always lift me up today!

  27. Happy Mother’s Day, Tania! And thank you for this insightful post that reminds us that not everyone has the same situations.

  28. Tania, Beautiful Post this morning. Happy Mother’s Day!

  29. You are a daily inspiration.

  30. Tania,
    Thank you for your Mother’s Day post. I miss my mother and wish she was here but I cherish my memories of her.

  31. Thank you for todays message – it really resonated with me – even in life after 60 ;>).

  32. We had a wonderful Mom. When we pause from time to time to think about the many sacrifices she made so we could learn something new or go to an event or many other things.
    We know we were blessed. Happy Mother’s Day.

  33. Best post ever! So true! Thank you Tania!

  34. I have the best mom ever…. And she reads this blog too! Love you mom 💕

    1. Thank you Becky J!❤️
      You are also a great mom, and daughter! Love you!❤️

  35. I was looking for an Instagram account to follow with trendy practical fashion for 50 somethings. I got that but so much more! Thank you so much for the Mother’s Day post. This post feels like it was written for me along with all of the comments. I’m grateful for these words.

  36. Thank you for realizing we didn’t all have wonderful parents.

  37. Hi Tania. I have been reading you’re blog for years and all of a sudden I noticed it quit showing up in my inbox. I am going to sign up again but wanted to make you aware.

  38. Thank you, I really needed that. Hope your day was beautiful.

  39. Beautiful words Tania. Happy Mother’s Day!

  40. Marlene Ward says:

    I always think of Morhers Day spending time with my two daughters and having dinner together. Your post made me think of all the people who don’t have this. A reality check. Thank you. My mother died 25 yrs ago and she was the best. I
    still miss her a l
    ot. Today my daughters and I will visit the cemetary and take lilacs to her grave as we do every year. She had a lilac bush beside her deck where we would sit on Morhers Day so this flower reminds me of her.
    Happy Mothers Day

    1. Marlene, most of us think that everyone is like us. I have my parents, loving children, and I am very blessed. But, when I do get to visit my mom in a couple of weeks, she has already told me that my sister and I get to go to the cemetery with her and her sister and take flowers to granny’s grave.

  41. Angie Brazil says:

    This really hit me in my heart, Tania. I lost my mother unexpectedly in May 2016. The last time I saw her alive was on Mother’s Day. I am blessed with a loving husband, four beautiful children and three precious grandchildren, but today is still bittersweet. I needed your words today. Thank you. Happy Mother’s Day to you and May God bless and keep you always.

    1. My best friend from high school lost her mother this year, and I know that it will be a hard day for her also. You are blessed with a wonderful family, that is awesome.

  42. Good morning Tania. I was blessed to have a very strong-willed, loving mother who, unfortunately, died of cancer at age 53 and my mother-in-law is a lovely 92 year old lady with advanced dementia. I’m fortunate to have a good relationship with my adult children who both live in different cities. Enjoy your day and your upcoming trip to visit your mom.

    1. Janice, I am glad that you had your mother until her 50s. My grandmother died around that age which is way too young.

  43. Linnie S Z says:

    Thank you, Tania, for this moving post. I love that you don’t assume most women are mothers, as the rest of the world seems to do. I was never blessed with children, and therefore, not blessed with grandchildren. I mourn this daily, along with missing MY Mom, who we lost 22 years ago. I agree with Tina Olson– I usually avoid church on Mother’s Day because it makes me feel “less than” although I did attend online today. That way, nobody saw my tears except God.
    May God Bless you this Mother’s Day, and everyone else, Mom, Dad, or neither

    1. Linnie, most of us assume everyone is like us. But, I have an Aunt who was never blessed with children, and one of my sister’s best friends also tried for years without success. Plus, my best friend in high school lost her mother recently, so I realize that this day isn’t all sunshine and rainbows for a lot of people. The Lord knows your heart, and He loves you. Dry your tears, you have the BEST Father ever!

  44. Happy Mothers Day Tania. I enjoyed reading this post this morning. It was well written and delivered a great message. Enjoy your day!

  45. Tina Olson says:

    This was the first thing I read this morning and they were much needed words as well the scripture. I don’t have a good relationship with my mom or stepmom of 42 years I and strive to do the right thing. They are both recognized on this day. Children were always a desire but God determined not for me. I’m glad I’m traveling today so an also avoid my church’s Mother’s Day message.

    I also lift women up in prayer for women that have lost their children. I’ve learned much from a dear friend that lost her adult daughter.

    Wishing all a day of celebration and a day to be kind to yourself.

    1. My sister and I were just talking about this very thing. She has a friend who tried for years to have children, and she too said that she hates going to church on Mother’s Day.

  46. Marcie W. says:

    Happy Mother’s day.
    I enjoy your posts and today was a good word.

  47. “No matter what kind of earthly parent you had, you have a heavenly Father”. This made me cry. I went through what felt like hell growing up with my mother who was mentally ill and abusive. I was very damaged from the abuse, but after many years I was able to love and forgive her and now I am working on repairing my relationship with her and my own self esteem.

    1. I’m sorry Kiki that you went through that as a child. But, I am so glad that you are able to love and forgive, and I know the Lord is with you in this.

  48. Thank you for this post and recognizing those of us who do not have a good relationship with our mothers. It’s painful to NOT feel the love you want from a parent and to mourn what you’ve never had. Although my mother is still living, she is not in my life. I am thankful that I have broken the cycle of abuse, and I thank God that have a wonderful relationship with my son.

    1. Posts like this are hard for me to write. I know that some weren’t blessed with good earthly parents, but we were all blessed with a Heavenly Father that is above all others.

  49. Thank you for writing this. My mother passed last year and she wasn’t always the nicest person. I sometimes feel bad that I don’t miss her, but she did teach me things she didn’t even realize. She taught me how NOT to treat my children. I love my kids with all my heart. Happy Mother’s Day Tania.

    1. Robin, I know that it must be hard for you, but I am glad that you are able to move forward, and treat your children with love.

  50. Linda White says:

    I love the Lord with all my heart and was blessed with wonderful Mom and Dad. They have been gone for quite awhile and I know they are with our Heavenly Father. Tania love your outfits and the daily verses. Happy Mother’s Day!

    1. Days like today are hard for some people. I am thankful that we can all lean on the Lord and know that He is with us.