What You Should Do When You’re Angry
Do you ever feel like all you do is complain? Maybe you feel like you overreact to a comment or offense instead of letting it roll off.
Usually, I am pretty chill, and it takes a lot to get me riled up. But, for some reason, it seemed like every little thing got on my last nerves this week. It started when I ordered a dining table and chairs for the patio. I was so excited to finally find one I liked, and I quickly placed the order. It was getting time for the set to be delivered, so I checked the tracking information only to find out it was being shipped to our old address.
The next issue this week was on Wednesday morning. I took our trash can to the curb Tuesday night since the trash pickup is Wednesday. I heard the trash truck coming down the road, so I went and looked out my window. That’s when I noticed that it was a new truck that had a mechanical arm that grabbed the trash can and emptied it into the truck. I even commented to Joe about how cool that was until the driver misjudged where the trash can was and hit our mailbox instead.
Finally, a random comment on one of my platforms wasn’t very nice. I have been blessed with the best followers and rarely have to deal with rude comments. After stewing on the comment more than I should have, I called my sister and asked her why my first reaction was always wrong.
Instead of praying about the situation, I immediately find myself stewing, grumbling, complaining, arguing, getting mad, or calling a friend to commiserate with. I never think that maybe I’m having a bad day or am being overly sensitive. It never occurs to me that the person on the other end could be upset about something else, and I end up being the recipient of displaced anger. Nope! Instead, I want to vent, lash out, and stew about the situation.
Matthew 5:38-40
38 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth.’39 But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also. 40 And if anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, hand over your coat as well.
It is so easy to get dragged into a verbal fight when we feel like we are being disrespected or mistreated. Turning the other cheek, or choosing not to respond, can be challenging. But today, I found a way that made it a little easier.
After stewing for about 30 minutes, I put away my computer to take a cat nap. When I got out my cozy throw blanket, Lucy Lu came running and jumped up on the couch with me. This bundle of fur cozied up beside me, and quickly fell asleep. I sat there petting her and started thanking the Lord for my many blessings.
Psalm 116:12
12 What shall I render to the Lord For all His benefits toward me?
Psalm 103:2
2 Bless the Lord, O my soul, And forget not all His benefits:
James 1:2-4
2 Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3 because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. 4 Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.
It is funny, but you can’t be mad, aggravated, or upset when you start counting your blessings. I’ve always heard you should count to ten before responding when angry. Instead of counting to ten, we need to think of five blessings that the Lord has given us. You will watch your anger melt away and be replaced by a sense of peace and joy.
To God Goes The Glory!
Have A Blessed Day!
I’m sorry that you were the recipient of a negative comment. I know it’s easier said than done, but it’s definitely not worthy of taking up space in your head. Unfortunately there are a lot of people with issues nowadays. I’m a social worker (and former therapist), so I usually just attribute rude comments as “poor social skills” or mental illness and move on. I will be the first to admit, though, that if they catch you in the right mood, it can be challenging. I’m glad you were able to put it in perspective! Have a great week.
Totally agree!!!
While angry think of 5 blessings. I love that and have sent to all my children. Such a simple statement but so true.
Thank you for all you say, honestly I think you are amazing. Have a wonderful day
Thank you so much! I needed to read this, because I feel tired, worn out and unhappy at times. I guess it is a bad week. Thank you.
AMEN! Thank you!
Great advice. Thank you for sharing.
Thanks, Tania! I love your posts & get lots of great fashion ideas from you. But mostly, I love your heart! Thanks for a right-on-time message. Blessings to you!
Excellent post. I have done what you did. Today I heard an excellent sermon on James chapter 3. I hope this coming week is better for you.
Thank you for this message….one I needed to hear. May God continue to bless you with many blessings.
I love this! For me, perfect timing to read this. Have been very grumpy lately. I think I’ll re-read it every morning along with my devotional. Thank you Tania
Thank you!