50 IS NOT OLD | NO TEARS IN HEAVENLet me start by admitting that I am a crier. I cry at the drop of a hat, and I am not a pretty crier. I think that I see it as a weakness, and I don’t want to appear weak. Some things I know will bring on the waterworks, and other things are a complete surprise. Would you think that watching a child’s cartoon would send tears streaming down your face? How about watching a television commercial; would you believe that you would need a box of Kleenex? It doesn’t matter if I attend a funeral, a wedding, or a Baptism, you can rest assured that at some point I am going to start crying. Therefore, I go to great lengths not to cry and will try to keep from putting myself in situations that I know will make me cry. I try to carry travel-size Kleenex in my purse. If I start to cry, then I dab at the corners of my eyes, (all lady-like) so that the tears don’t do too much damage to my makeup.

It was an unexpected moment this past week that had tears running down my face. I had read on FaceBook that a lady that I knew had passed away. I knew her, but we were not “friends,” more like acquaintances, but I thought that she was very sweet and nice from what I knew of her. Her husband came into work to get a piece of equipment to help with digging her grave, and he walked over to my desk. I wasn’t positive that it was “his” wife who had passed away, so I didn’t mention anything and instead made some small talk. But, we eventually got around to that subject, and I could feel the tears starting to form. Even though we were not close, I think he needed to talk. He talked, and I listened, and then he began to cry. He cried, and I cried with him. He was the one who was having to go through the process, but I realized that I could be there to help ease his pain just by showing empathy.

Romans 12:15

15 Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.

1 Corinthians 10:24

24 Don’t be concerned for your own good but for the good of others.

Romans 15:1

15 We who are strong ought to bear with the failings of the weak and not to please ourselves.

Those Bible verses spoke to me…LOUDLY. I think they were saying, (loosely interrupted) it is about them, not YOU. And then I came across this verse, and it kicked my tail to the curb.

Galatians 6:2-3

Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ. If you think you are too important to help someone, you are only fooling yourself. You are not that important.

YOU ARE NOT THAT IMPORTANT! Wow! That verse really put it all in perspective for me. Was I really worrying about how I “looked” when I cried, how my makeup was smearing, or that I might appear weak? I AM NOT THAT IMPORTANT!!!

I am comforted that there will be no tears in Heaven. But, just in case I should ever wonder in the future what I should do, this verse will remind me.

Luke 6:32

31 Do to others as you would have them do to you.

I hope you have a Blessed Day!



  1. Elizabeth Bienvenu Reply

    I cry very easily too. Love your sensitive heart Tania?

    • Tania Reply

      I have to remember that it is not about me, it is about them.

      • Cathy justice Reply

        I think our tears show our sensitivity to others whether their dad or happy tears. To stop, hear and feel others is the kindness we were taught from the bible.

  2. I am right there with you Tania. I cry easily and once I start I have a hard time stopping. I believe we feel others pain. I try to comfort all that I encounter daily. I saw a friend yesterday who is fighting cancer. The visit and your lesson spoke to me today. Thank you for reminding it’s truly what god intended for us to do. Love one another.

    • Tania Reply

      Connie, I feel so badly for others, and the tears start flowing. I hate it though when I encounter someone like your friend, and I am the one to cry. I feel like I am going to make them feel bad, and that is not what I want to do at all.

  3. I am a crier as well Tania. My children laugh at me because for anything I cry, at times they ask ate you that sad mom ? No I am not I say, I guess I have a very sensitive heart, saying goodbye to my grandson kills me n of course I cry.
    We just got back from our cruise and the last event our goodbye party I was an open faucet, saying goodbye to our waiters was worst, at times I feel embarrassed for all this crying
    I think the Lord has given me a heart to be sensitive to others in good and bad times

    Be Blessed dear Tania???

  4. I’m a crier too. Sometimes at church when we are singing at church, the words of the song move me to tears. Just think of all the things He promises us.

    • Tania Reply

      Jane, Church is one of the places that I cry at often. It can be the message, someone coming forward, or a song that makes the tears start to form.

  5. Dana Buckingham Reply

    This is so true. I cry at commercials too – and other’s misfortune. God bless you, Tania!

    • Tania Reply

      Don’t let me watch a Budweiser commercial. Lol! I am a mess.

  6. Leslie Mulkey Reply

    We have an extra dose of empathy when some people don’t. I’m on our prayer worship team at church. I pray with those who need prayer for anything. I find myself praying with tears streaming with people I don’t know but my heart feels their pain. God knows their needs even when I don’t. It’s a good thing they keep Kleenex nearby. I keep the person on my heart, not as a burden, but as a breath prayer all week. Sometimes I hear or see later that the prayer was answered. The joy I feel for my Father in heaven is indescribable. I consider the empathy I have a spiritual gift now, but I did not always feel that way. I too thought of it as a weakness and hid it as much as possible. No longer do I feel this way. It is a gift to feel deep empathy for others. I love the scripture you referenced. Be blessed and keep blessing others! I’m glad I found your blog. Leslie

    • Tania Reply

      Leslie, I love that you are on the prayer worship team. I too quickly say a quick prayer, and then I go about my day. It is rare, unless it is someone close to me, that I think of the situation again through the week. You are giving me a new perspective on my tears.

  7. Brenda Lusk Reply

    I am also a crier! However, I almost every case it is not sadness it is that I’m am OVERFLOWING of blessings that I do not deserve. Christ love for me seems to overflow my heart and the waterworks start! I try to not apologize for it either!!

  8. Tania I also cry at the drop of a hat. I can go to the funeral of a stranger and cry. I have a very sensitive heart and I can feel other people’s pain.

    • Tania Reply

      Dawn, I do that too! I have cried at strangers funerals, and I wonder how in the world that I can do that. I remember walking into the funeral home where a friend had lost her brother. The tears started rolling down my cheeks before we even made it to the front. Joe asked me why I was crying. He said that the family wasn’t even crying. I couldn’t help myself though.

  9. Loved your post today, Tania! I too am a crier and my girls have laughed when I cried watching Heidi, Shirley Temple movies, Ann of Green Gables, and many more with them. The tears flow in church when I sing or praise the Lord, when I pray and get overwhelmed by the goodness of our Savior. I used to be embarrassed by it, but now I just realize that is how God wired me. I learned long ago to always wear waterproof (cryproof ?) mascara and carry Kleenex. Have a blessed day! ❤️

    • Tania Reply

      I cried at Pocahontas. Lol! It is bad when you cry at cartoons.

  10. I’m tearing up just reading this. There are homeless people every where these days, especially here in Las Vegas, and I find myself tearing up or have tears rolling down my face when I see them. The homeless youth especially get to me as I think about my own kids and can’t imagine them in that situation. A few nights ago I was walking out of a grocery store when a young guy sitting on the ground called to me but I was so startled that I quickly went to my car. I took some money out of my wallet, but shamefully was so scared to go out to give it to him and that made me cry even more. I donate directly to organizations all the time, but I’m sure a lot of the homeless probably don’t have the wherewithal to even know where to go get help.

    • Tania Reply

      I can’t imagine having to see the homeless and feeling so helpless. Your heart is in the right place. I am like you though, I worry that the money might not make it into the hands of the people who need it most.

  11. Thanks for this post. So many people need to hear this message. You write such good Sunday messages! Thank you

  12. I have unfortunately been on the other side, having lost a young son to leukemia. Most people want to talk about their loved one and you did the right thing listening and sharing his tears. Beautiful post, thank you.

    • Tania Reply

      Sue, I am so sorry. Being on the other side is much worse, and I feel silly worrying about my tears. I remember when Joe’s friend lost his wife and he wanted to talk about her to Joe. Joe said that he didn’t know what to do for him. I told him to just be there for his friend, and listen. He needed to talk.

  13. Love this! I am facing some challenges right now and some of my concerns are very selfish! Thank you for the reminder that we should focus on helping others and not make everything about ourselves. I bet that if I did that, the Lord would make sure my concerns are taken care of.

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