Today is Mother’s Day, and it is a day set aside to celebrate Mothers all over the world. With almost all holidays, some people don’t want to celebrate this day and dread seeing it come around each year. It is a day filled with pain, anger, and grief for those who feel this way. My sister and I talked about this issue, and she made a great point that I want to share with all of you. We celebrate “Mothers’ Day” because of what good mothers represent.

We have a great mother, and I am blessed that she is still alive and reading this post today. Sadly, some of you reading this won’t be able to say the same thing. Some people aren’t cut out to be mothers, and the children born to these women don’t celebrate Mother’s Day. It is hard for me to understand since I have never experienced this, but some women are abusive to their children, either physically or mentally. I know people who don’t speak to their mothers and haven’t for years. Why would they want to celebrate the person who was supposed to be the mom on the Hallmark cards when she was nothing like that?

Some of you had great mothers, but they have already passed away, and this day brings you grief over your loss. I can empathize with you, but since I haven’t experienced your pain, I don’t know really what that feels like. I’m sure you have lots of beautiful memories of your mother, and I hope and pray those memories bring you great joy.

There is another group of women who don’t look forward to Mother’s Day. These are the modern-day Sarai or Sarah’s who desperately wanted children but couldn’t conceive. For them, this is a painful reminder that they never got to be a mother and were never called mom. Sarah eventually got to experience becoming a mother, and she was named a mother of nations, but everyone doesn’t have a happy ending.

We all have in common the “idea” of what makes a great mother. If you had, or still have, a wonderful mother, then you know the great qualities they possessed. The same goes for those whose mother was not ideal; you know the qualities you desperately wanted your mother to have, even if she was incapable of them. For those who never experienced motherhood, that doesn’t mean that you don’t know what a wonderful mom would have looked like.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

This verse isn’t about mothers; it is about love. But, I can’t think of mothers without thinking of love. Love is the one quality that we want all mothers to have. Kindness, patience, protectiveness, nurturing, and being someone we could turn to when hard times come are qualities that a good mother would have.

The qualities of a good mother are qualities that everyone can strive for, even if you had a horrible mother or never experienced motherhood. In a perfect world, those who have longed to be a mother could be a friend/mother to the person who had a crappy mother. What if we all projected those excellent qualities on nieces, cousins, neighborhood children, or even children we meet for only a few minutes in an elevator or on a bus ride? Could we make a difference in someone’s life?

For those celebrating Mother’s Day, I hope you have a wonderful day filled with love and laughter. For those who aren’t a fan of this day, maybe we can find a way to make the world a better place by adopting the qualities of a good mother and spreading them around.

To God Goes The Glory!

Have A Blessed Day!

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  1. For some reason, this one email was sent to my Junk folder so I missed it yesterday on Mother’s Day, but very much enjoyed it today! It was beautifully written and so very true! Happy Mother’s Day to you!

  2. Cheryll Sampson says:

    Happy Mother’s Day.! My mother was truly a great mother who has been gone 19 years this June. I miss her but celebrate my daughter in law and the other mothers around me. I am blessed with an adult son, and he celebrates me!

    1. You are blessed, Cheryll! I hope you had a great day.

  3. tkmadison3434 says:

    You have some nerve saying kids that have no contact with their mothers were bad mothers. Get a clue, not all kids who have had a good mother respect their mothers or contact them. That is on the kids.

    1. I don’t think that is what I said, and I’m sorry if you misinterpreted my post. I hope you had a great day.

  4. Happy Mothers Day, Tania. I love your blog. But, this essay was heartfelt and one of the best you’ve ever written. I love being a mother and grandmother. I have been blessed! I also had a great mother and I miss her every day, even though she’s been gone for over 30 years. She taught me well! Happy Mothers to all Moms all over the world!

    1. Linda, thank you so much. I’m glad that you enjoyed the post. I hope you had a great day with your family.

  5. Gail J. Hoke says:

    What a great post! Happy Mother’s Day to you as well!

    1. Happy Mother’s Day to you, Gail.

  6. Thanks for posting. I enjoy your blog. I don’t get to read all of your posts but have purchased things because of your posts. I especially like Sunday posts.

    1. Thanks, Elena. I’m glad that my Sunday posts speak to you.

  7. I too have lost my mother. I miss her but I do not celebrate her death. I celebrate her life with beautiful, fun and sometimes silly memories. I hope and pray on this Mother’s Day that she would be proud not only of the mother I am but the mother both my daughters have become. My mother was an excellent example of what a mother should be. I pray that I am that same example for my daughters. I also pray that when I come up short there are other mothers there to be the example that they deserve. Thank you for a heartfelt post!

    1. Lucinda, I am happy to hear that your mother made a great impact on you and that you honor her with your memories.

  8. WOW- such a thoughtful and inclusive post! Once again, thank you and Happy Mother’s Day!

    1. Thanks, Carolina, I hope you had a great Mother’s Day.

  9. connie klappenbach says:

    Just heart warming

    1. I’m glad you enjoyed it, Connie.

  10. Thank you…..love it.

  11. Tania, first of all , Happy Mother’s Day to you! Thank you so much for this post and acknowledging the broad spectrum of emotions that can go along with this day. I was fortunate and had a very good mother. She passed away recently so this is my first without her. However, as you mentioned I remember the wonderful celebrations we’ve had in the past. Also, I’m a mother as well and have a wonderful daughter. I’m fortunate. I pray for those that have a difficult time with this day and hope they can find some inner peace.

    1. Days like this are hard to write about since there are so many emotions. You are bound to step on someone’s foot, and I would never intentionally do that.

  12. What a good Mother’s Day post. Thank you!

    1. Thanks, Ellen. I hope you had a great day.

  13. A very Happy Mother’s Day to u Tania! Enjoy this beautiful day! Very fitting scripture for today’s blog. ❤️

    1. Thanks, Deborah. I’m glad you enjoyed the post.

  14. Hi Tanya, I’m sure your being spoiled on this Mother’s Day.
    I just want to say, I lost my Mum quite a few years ago now, but it doesn’t stop me celebrating her love, not just for me and my Dad but for everyone. She was funny, well dressed, loved life and kind – except once when I became my father’s daughter LoL ! Today I celebrate what we had together. There wasn’t a Birthday, Christmas, Easter, Mother/Father’s Day went by when they didn’t get cards, flowers and gifts or came to dinner etc, and that was something when she died – she was thought of irrespective of what was happening to me.
    I’m now in the situation – even though I’m over 50 of having a relationship in the States (I live in France and yes, it’s worked for over a year, even when there have been huge work problems for my guy which the Lord has quided us through). He had a daughter who now calls me Mum – sorry Mom (I lost a baby and ex husband declared I was useless – no matter in the past). I’ve had an e-card, and next year will be different, even if I’m only there for a vacation.
    She lost her Mom when she was 4, and still misses her, of course. It’s lovely though that she feels I’m not a replacement but someone special enough in her life to call me Mom.

    Today is a celebration as you say.We should spread the qualities of Motherhood all over, for others that are feeling the pain.

    As I said enjoy your day, and your lovely Mum. Have fun ya’ll.
    Dee Tickner (over 50 and enjoying life).

  15. You have such beautiful ideas. I really loved this today. I am blessed to have had the most wonderful mother & I miss her everyday. I have known a few young women who were not so blessed & try to show them love like my Mom Charlotte did for me & my 4 brothers. Tania you are a treasure. Thank you for your words of wisdom. They always touch me very deeply.

    1. Holly, your words mean a lot to me. I’m happy that this post spoke to you.