What Is Your Comfort Zone

50 Is Not Old | Comfort ZoneHave you heard the expression, “the squeaky wheel gets the oil?” My husband tells me this all the time. Usually it is because I don’t want to call or ask somebody something, and this is his way of encouraging my to get out of my comfort zone. Haha 50 Is Not Old | Comfort ZoneWe all have our comfort zone. That little spot we are just cozy and happy. Normally I would be talking about our comfort zone for fashion, and I’ll get around to that later in the post, but right now I am referring to life. Are you settling for what you have, instead of what you want? This could be your refer to a job, friends, love interest, house, or even your attitude.

50 Is Not Old | Comfort ZoneI am shy by nature. Some would find that hard to believe because I try extremely hard not to let it show. When my children were in high school, they both played basketball for the varsity team. I became the scorekeeper for both of their team when they were in 1st or 2nd grade, and continued this job till they graduated High School. The main reason I took that job, was because I hated walking into a gym, filled with hundreds of people, and trying to find somewhere to sit. I of course knew lots of the people there, but I felt uncomfortable going up to sit beside them. As the scorekeeper, I knew exactly where I would be sitting. How lame is that? My point is, I do not like to venture out of my comfort zone.

50 Is Not Old | Comfort ZoneAs I have gotten older, and hopefully wiser, I have put myself in situations that expands my comfort radius. As you might imagine, public speaking is not something I am comfortable in doing. So what did I do, I became President of our local woman’s club. If that wasn’t enough, I became the President of the Southwestern District Woman’s Club, and I have even taken on a position in the GFWC Virginia’s Woman’s Club as a State Chairman. I was not trying to get pats on my back, this was just my way of taking things to the next level. While I still don’t like public speaking, I have gotten better.

Yesterday, I mustered up the courage to email a fellow blogger with a proposition. I knew the chances of her saying yes were pretty slim, but I figured all she could say was no. And that is what she said, but she said it very nicely. Haha  While, we all hate rejection, it is sometimes just part of life. If I hadn’t asked, then it definitely wouldn’t have happened, so I really had nothing to lose.

50 Is Not Old | Comfort ZoneI am sure you are tired of hearing me talk about my wonderful sister, but she is the epitome of what I am talking about. She told me she had been working on writing a book for years. (I never even knew that she had aspirations of being a writer.) She joined a writers group, and they all would talk about each others projects and give their support. One day someone mentioned that if you were going to be successful at writing, you had to treat it like a job, and not just a hobby. So she buckled down and finished the book. That turned out to be the easy part. Next came finding an agent, not an easy task, and a publisher. She stepped out of her comfort zone and sent off letter, after letter, to potential agents. I am sure with each rejection she wondered if her dream would ever become a reality. You just have to trust that the Lord works in his way and in his time. Before long the agent she needed came along, and shortly after that a big name publisher. You will find the link to her book on my sidebar if you are interested in reading it. She is now working on book number two, and this is all because she, say it with me, STEPPED OUTSIDE HER COMFORT ZONE.

Go for it! Just do it! If you don’t try, you never know what you can accomplish. And, by the way, a new window opened with the fellow blogger, so I am letting the fresh air spill in. I have a little something in the works for the future, I’ll let you know when I get everything in place.

50 Is Not Old | Comfort ZoneNow, about that “fashion” comfort zone. Many of you have commented that you liked an item or a look, but that it was not for you. If that is because it is the wrong color, or wouldn’t fit your body type, then I understand. If it is because you don’t like the look, then I totally get you. However, if it is because you are afraid someone would laugh at you, or say something negative, then get over it. Take the bull by the horns, go for the gusto, you only live once. I can go on and on if you want me to, but I think you get the point. You are limiting yourself because of what others might think. Have you ever heard of Iris Apfel? She has become a certified star because she dances to the beat of her own drum. Some of her looks are a little far-out for me, but she is not dressing for me, she is dressing for her. Here is an article from the Washington Post last year on Iris.50 Is Not Old | Comfort ZoneThis outfit is one that could be on the border line. It is black & white, which is  perfect, but the neckline of the sweater is one that could push the boundary. I bought the sweater at T J Maxx, but it is no longer on their site. Here is a similar one. The last time I wore this sweater, here, I really pushed the envelope. Haha  These white skinny jeans are wonderful, they will be perfect for the upcoming spring and summer months. I like that they are thick enough that you can’t see through them. My criteria for white pants is simple, I don’t want you to see what color of underwear I am wearing, if I am wearing any. LOL!!! Of course, they too are no longer available, but I found this boyfriend version that looks comfortable and stylish, and this skinny version that has a scalloped hem. The leather Ella tote by Vera Bradley was a Valentine’s Day gift, and I love the color for spring. The one I am carrying is bright pink, but the one I tagged is called Plum. I don’t think it is the exact same color, but it is still very pretty. There is a small version and a large version, and also several different colors to choose from. The earrings are a vintage pair that I bought when I was at my sister’s a couple weeks ago. Yard sales will soon be gearing up, so make sure you hit a couple, you never know what you will find.

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  1. Christine wrote:

    I really like your blog and your humor! How about telling us about your makeup, which brand you wear,etc….

    Posted 2.17.16 Reply
    • Tania wrote:

      I plan on doing a post or maybe a video for my makeup soon. Thanks for prodding me:)

      Posted 2.17.16 Reply
  2. Sheryl wrote:

    As Iris Apfel says, “fashion you can buy, style you possess.” This is what I feel about you, Tania(?- did I spell your name right?) I look forward to your daily outfits, complete with accessories. It helps me decide what to wear for the day or special occasion!

    Posted 2.17.16 Reply
    • Tania wrote:

      Thanks Sheryl. Yes, that is the correct spelling, and it is pronounced like Tanya Tucker of the “Delta Dawn” fame.

      Posted 2.17.16 Reply
  3. Mary wrote:

    I’m a new follower of you on Facebook and Instagram. I love your style and your sense of humor! My question is not fashion related but I love your hair style! My hairstyle is similar but shorter. I am considering growing it out. Would it be possible to see what the back looks like so I could show it to my stylist?

    Posted 2.17.16 Reply
    • Tania wrote:

      Mary, I am thrilled you found my blog! I hope you are enjoying the craziness. I did a post a little while back, when I went to my stylist, and had her take some pictures of the cut. Go here to read about it, and see the pictures. I hope you keep coming back!
      https://50isnotold.com/2016/01/08/hair-tutorial-asymmetrical-bob/

      Posted 2.17.16 Reply
  4. Kathy wrote:

    Boy did you hit the nail on the head and stomp it into the ground with me this morning. One of the biggest places that I struggle with getting out of my comfort zone is my wardrobe. In my mind I am a fashion diva, but in reality I am more of a wallflower. I would live in a tee shirt, jeans and canvas sneakers if life allowed. Reading your blog is one of my feasible efforts to improve this. It is a baby step in the right direction. Thanks for the nudge to be all that I can.
    I like the length of the top. Happy hump day.

    Posted 2.17.16 Reply
    • Tania wrote:

      Kathy, I know all about that wallflower. It is hard to put yourself out there for others to see. Nudge, nudge!!!

      Posted 2.17.16 Reply
  5. Michele wrote:

    Really like this look, black and white is always classy then you add the boots – fabulous. But that neckline is not as flattering as another would be. Like your thoughts on being moved out of your comfort zone. Sometimes we get encourged to and sometimes forced to due to circumstances, but I have always found it turns out to be good, especially for me when I have trusted God to be my guide. You mentioned your sister home schools. We did also at a time when it was rare and not alot of options, talk about leaving a comfort zone. He is now 35 and not ruined!! Glad you’re doing this blog. I look forward to reading it every morning. Have a great day.

    Posted 2.17.16 Reply
    • Tania wrote:

      Learning to trust is a hard lesson to learn. Thanks Michele for following along.

      Posted 2.17.16 Reply
  6. Cindy J. wrote:

    Tania, you rock! Besides giving us sound fashion advice, you give us valuable advice about life. Up until a few years ago, I was a wall flower wanting to disappear into the woodwork everywhere I went. Although I was a teacher who had to stand up in front of 30 plus teenagers for 8 periods a day, my confidence in how I looked was 0. After stumbling on some fashion blogs- yours included- I began to see fashion differently and learned how to dress myself so that I felt more confident and wore things that made me feel good! Last year when I retired, I was voted best dressed teacher by the students in my high school-a real accomplishment because I was the oldest teacher in the school! To me, this was also an affirmation that style is not restricted to age!
    Love your black and white outfit and your boots! I would also like to hear more about your makeup and hair products. Happy Wednesday!

    Posted 2.17.16 Reply
    • Tania wrote:

      That was quite an accomplishment Cindy J. Congrats!!!

      Posted 2.17.16 Reply
  7. Jill S. wrote:

    Great advice AND outfit. Keep it coming. You make my day.

    Posted 2.17.16 Reply
    • Tania wrote:

      Thanks Jill!

      Posted 2.17.16 Reply
  8. Melanie wrote:

    I want that outfit !! Haha I love that sweater ! Your blog has become my favorite ! I follow a few others but I enjoy yours the most. Keep up the great work.

    Posted 2.17.16 Reply
    • Tania wrote:

      You made my day, Melanie?

      Posted 2.17.16 Reply
  9. DJ wrote:

    Hi Tania,
    I love this outfit – black and white are so classic. You look fantastic!! I’m always trying to get out of my comfort zone. Just commenting here is huge for me. Have a wonderful day and thank you for inspiring me – with your fashion and life thoughts!

    Posted 2.17.16 Reply
    • Tania wrote:

      I made a comment years ago to a blogger, DJ, and when she commented back to me it actually terrified me. Haha I thought I was invisible, and didn’t really think she would respond. Lol

      Posted 2.17.16 Reply
  10. Missy wrote:

    This message from you today was so what I needed to hear!! My husband and I are about to step out of our “comfort zone” and make a huge lifestyle change! What you said about taking it to the next level really resonated within me. I love what you are wearing today! Black and white is a very classic combination and I love the way you put it all together.

    Posted 2.17.16 Reply
  11. Chelsea wrote:

    Tania, Thank you for todays post! This really hits home with me and I needed to read this. My mom has always said ‘There’s no dress rehearsal in life, you only get to be on stage once’ So why not be the star of your own show?! You look fabulous today and I just adore your blog!! Thank you for not only being a fabulous influence in fashion, but also addressing other topics that may be a touch more serious albeit with a great sense of humor & panache!!!

    Posted 2.17.16 Reply
  12. You look awesome in this outfit, Tania…and I have probably said it before, but I love your hair. I have been living out of my comfort zone for the past 12 years and it has been so much fun…I am truly amazed at all that has happened. Just keep pushing those boundaries and you will see what I mean! Have a wonderful Wednesday!

    Posted 2.17.16 Reply
  13. Kendra wrote:

    Tania, I love your blog! You make me laugh and you make me think! Great combination! I will be 60 in May, I quit (not retired, quit) my teaching job a year and a half ago and have been rethinking my future. I have always enjoyed natural remedies and herbs, so I signed up for an online course in aromatherapy. I am absolutely loving it. It scares me at times because I am a perfectionist and am very competitive, so I have to remind myself to take it slow and not rush through just to get to the certificate. Today was awesome encouragement that we can make positive things happen if we just step out!

    Only one suggestion…is there a way we can comment on other people’s comments?
    Thanks!!

    Posted 2.17.16 Reply
    • Tania wrote:

      Kendra, you pushed me out of my comfort zone! haha I went to my wordpress settings and figured out how to let you reply to others. I hope this works, give it a try!

      Posted 2.17.16 Reply
    • Kendra wrote:

      Awesome!

      Posted 2.18.16 Reply
      • Tania wrote:

        Thanks!

        Posted 2.18.16 Reply
  14. Sallie wrote:

    Tania, I now have coffee with you every morning! So nice to have someone to relate to while I sit in my robe with wet hair, yogurt and coffee. Because of you I am excited to shop my closet. Yesterday I was having lunch with friends and I put a jean jacket, leopard print blouse, black pants, low black heels and black jewelry together..,oh and a cute animal print handbag and matching reading glasses. I felt good and got compliments. I’m looking forward to Friday night to have dinner with a bunch of our friends. Already working on that outfit. Thanks, gurlfriend… more coffee?

    Posted 2.17.16 Reply
    • Tania wrote:

      Way to go Sallie!!! More coffee, please ?

      Posted 2.17.16 Reply
  15. Betty wrote:

    Seems that hitting a “certain age” kinda was the kick to get out of the comfort zone for me, fashion-wise, anyway. THIS is the time! lol. – Love your black/white combo. – You’re very relatable & open, and you appear “comfy in your skin”. That’s where it’s at!

    Posted 2.17.16 Reply
    • Tania wrote:

      Betty, that certain age has a way of changing people?

      Posted 2.17.16 Reply
  16. Pam A. wrote:

    I love this outfit. The neckline of the sweater is so flattering on you! Keep up the great work!

    Posted 2.17.16 Reply
    • Tania wrote:

      Thanks, Pam!

      Posted 2.17.16 Reply
  17. Bernadine wrote:

    What a great blog today and everyday! I enjoy your introspectivism (is that even a word?) the most but really love your outfits. You keep things real.

    Posted 2.17.16 Reply
    • Tania wrote:

      It sounds like a word to me, Bernadine?

      Posted 2.17.16 Reply
  18. Brandye wrote:

    Love your perspective today! I, too, have had to push myself out of my comfort zone. In order to make myself speak in front of adults (I have no problem with my elementary students), I became a Lay Leader at church. That gave me the confidence to lead professional development for my school district. We are simpatico, Tania!

    BTW, I’m wearing white jeans today! But with a pink sweater….because it’s Wednesday… and on Wednesdays we wear pink. LOL (Name that movie!)

    Posted 2.17.16 Reply
    • Betty wrote:

      I had to look up that quote before it drove me nuts! Ha! – does Tania’s pink VB bag count? I am out of the loop today – wearing sage green (for some unknown reason ☺️ ).

      Posted 2.17.16 Reply
      • Tania wrote:

        I looked it up too, Betty. But don’t tell Brandye?

        Posted 2.17.16 Reply
      • Tania wrote:

        I looked it up too, Betty. But don’t tell Brandye?

        Posted 2.17.16 Reply
    • Tania wrote:

      Brandye, I know you are not a Mean Girl. Haha

      Posted 2.17.16 Reply
      • Brandye wrote:

        LOL I love that movie. There is a lesson in it. You have to stick with it until the end. Plus, so many great quotes!

        Posted 2.18.16 Reply
  19. Talia wrote:

    I love the classic look of black and white and you did it very well! I am new to your blog and so glad I found you. As a fellow 50 year old, I am thrilled to have stumbled upon your blog!

    Posted 2.17.16 Reply
    • Tania wrote:

      Talia, I am so glad you stumbled. Haha

      Posted 2.17.16 Reply
  20. Tamara wrote:

    Super cute outfit today!. I love the pop of pink.

    Posted 2.17.16 Reply
    • Tania wrote:

      Thanks, Tamara!

      Posted 2.17.16 Reply
  21. Tania, I am reading alot of your old blogs because I’m stuck at work on a Sat. w/nothing to do & I LOVE your blog! I love this sweater & I love all your encouragement about us taking the bull by the horns & jumping outside our comfort zone! I admire you for all you’ve done with your life & for your happy marriage, which I pray everyday that God will bring me. And just wanted to say I LOVE the way you change your hair color all the time. This color looks awesome on you!

    Posted 8.13.16 Reply
  22. Margo wrote:

    Love looking back at some older / younger blogs. This is a great look!

    Posted 2.8.18 Reply
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