DO YOU CHOOSE TO CELEBRATE MOTHER’S DAY
Happy Mother’s Day! If you are a mother or had a mother, you can choose to celebrate Mother’s Day. Mother’s Day can be challenging for many people, and celebrating is not something they want to do. Some have lost their mother, and the day reminds them of their loss. For some, they mourn that they have never been a mother, and they mourn that loss. And others had a mother that was abusive or neglectful, and they don’t want to honor her with a day of celebration.
I have been blessed with a wonderful mother, but that doesn’t mean I always liked her. If you are a mother, you understand that you will make decisions and choices your child will not be happy about. That is the hard part of being a mom. I have had an “I hate you” thrown at me many times for not allowing my child to go to a party, out on a date, or have a snake as a pet. I knew they didn’t mean it; they were just disappointed with my decision and were acting out of frustration.
But, for some people, their “I hate you” was sincere. They weren’t acting out of frustration but out of desperation. Neglect and abuse are not our normal thoughts when we think of a parent. A child is supposed to be wanted, loved, and cherished, but sadly, that is not always the case.
We can’t choose our parents, but many children of bad parents actually thrive. They overcome their situation, and they go to become productive members of society. They become the parent that they wished they would have had.
No matter what kind of earthy parent you had, you have a HEAVENLY father who is with you and will always be with you. You were created for a purpose and were no accident to the Lord. The Lord does not make mistakes, even if we don’t understand our “why.”
Psalms 139:14
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
Luke 12:7
7 Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.
If you have/had an awesome mom and dad, that is fabulous, but if your parents weren’t the best, you can have confidence that YOU were put here for a reason. The Lord loves you exactly the way that you are. He has a plan for you, and part of that plan might put you in undesirable situations. But that situation is what is unpleasant, not you. You are His child, and you are loved!
Today, give thanks for the love of your Heavenly Father and praise His Holy Name! Then, hug/call/kiss or forgive your earthly mother and wish her a Happy Mother’s Day if possible.
To God Goes The Glory!
Have A Blessed Day!
Good morning Tania. I was blessed to have a very strong-willed, loving mother who, unfortunately, died of cancer at age 53 and my mother-in-law is a lovely 92 year old lady with advanced dementia. I’m fortunate to have a good relationship with my adult children who both live in different cities. Enjoy your day and your upcoming trip to visit your mom.
Janice, I am glad that you had your mother until her 50s. My grandmother died around that age which is way too young.
Thank you, Tania, for this moving post. I love that you don’t assume most women are mothers, as the rest of the world seems to do. I was never blessed with children, and therefore, not blessed with grandchildren. I mourn this daily, along with missing MY Mom, who we lost 22 years ago. I agree with Tina Olson– I usually avoid church on Mother’s Day because it makes me feel “less than” although I did attend online today. That way, nobody saw my tears except God.
May God Bless you this Mother’s Day, and everyone else, Mom, Dad, or neither
Linnie, most of us assume everyone is like us. But, I have an Aunt who was never blessed with children, and one of my sister’s best friends also tried for years without success. Plus, my best friend in high school lost her mother recently, so I realize that this day isn’t all sunshine and rainbows for a lot of people. The Lord knows your heart, and He loves you. Dry your tears, you have the BEST Father ever!
Happy Mothers Day Tania. I enjoyed reading this post this morning. It was well written and delivered a great message. Enjoy your day!
Thanks, Ellen!
This was the first thing I read this morning and they were much needed words as well the scripture. I don’t have a good relationship with my mom or stepmom of 42 years I and strive to do the right thing. They are both recognized on this day. Children were always a desire but God determined not for me. I’m glad I’m traveling today so an also avoid my church’s Mother’s Day message.
I also lift women up in prayer for women that have lost their children. I’ve learned much from a dear friend that lost her adult daughter.
Wishing all a day of celebration and a day to be kind to yourself.
My sister and I were just talking about this very thing. She has a friend who tried for years to have children, and she too said that she hates going to church on Mother’s Day.
Happy Mother’s day.
I enjoy your posts and today was a good word.
Thanks, Marcie!
“No matter what kind of earthly parent you had, you have a heavenly Father”. This made me cry. I went through what felt like hell growing up with my mother who was mentally ill and abusive. I was very damaged from the abuse, but after many years I was able to love and forgive her and now I am working on repairing my relationship with her and my own self esteem.
I’m sorry Kiki that you went through that as a child. But, I am so glad that you are able to love and forgive, and I know the Lord is with you in this.
That’s a good word
Thanks, Carla.
Thank you for this post and recognizing those of us who do not have a good relationship with our mothers. It’s painful to NOT feel the love you want from a parent and to mourn what you’ve never had. Although my mother is still living, she is not in my life. I am thankful that I have broken the cycle of abuse, and I thank God that have a wonderful relationship with my son.
Posts like this are hard for me to write. I know that some weren’t blessed with good earthly parents, but we were all blessed with a Heavenly Father that is above all others.
Thank you for writing this. My mother passed last year and she wasn’t always the nicest person. I sometimes feel bad that I don’t miss her, but she did teach me things she didn’t even realize. She taught me how NOT to treat my children. I love my kids with all my heart. Happy Mother’s Day Tania.
Robin, I know that it must be hard for you, but I am glad that you are able to move forward, and treat your children with love.
I love the Lord with all my heart and was blessed with wonderful Mom and Dad. They have been gone for quite awhile and I know they are with our Heavenly Father. Tania love your outfits and the daily verses. Happy Mother’s Day!
Days like today are hard for some people. I am thankful that we can all lean on the Lord and know that He is with us.