50 IS NOT OLD | WHAT IF YOU ARE NOT IN CONTROLDo you believe in “Thy will be done?” We have been studying the Lord’s Prayer at church for the past few weeks. The verse from Matthew 6:11 says, “Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven.” I have been guilty of trying to manipulate God this week and trying to impose MY will. You can probably guess how that went, He won, and He will always win. I am a huge believer in mindset and that your words have power. I think saying daily affirmations is a wonderful practice, and it can make a huge difference in how you start the day. I love vision boards and gratitude journals. All of these play a big part in your mindset, and your mindset plays a huge part in your life.

At the beginning of each year, I like to start a new journal, and the first page of the journal is where I write down what has happened in the coming year. I write the goals that I reached and the things that I have accomplished. The idea is to read that every day, and it programs you to keep working toward those goals and dreams, which in turn will make them possible.

However, this past week, I used that same tactic to try and steer the Lord in the direction that I wanted. I knew that something was going to happen that I desperately did not want. I had been praying and praying for a miracle to happen, but my prayers weren’t being answered. So, I sat down and wrote in my journal that it DIDN’T happen. I wrote how excited that I was that my prayers were answered and how happy the outcome was for everyone. But, even as I was writing the words, they felt forced. I knew down deep that what I was writing was wrong, that it was trying to impose my will. But I did it anyway.

The next day, my prayers were answered, but not in the way that I had hoped. What I wanted desperately not to happen, happened anyway. I have come to terms that the Lord’s way is better, even if I don’t agree. I have come to terms that we sometimes have to go through a hard period that we would rather not go through. I know that once you emerge on the other side of this trial, that you are stronger and a better person. But, my heart still did not want any of it to happen.

My actions were not of a trust issue; I trust the Lord with everything. It was more of a control issue, and I needed to know the outcome. I can’t see what the Lord has in store, and that makes me afraid. I was not submissive in my actions; I wanted to feel some measure of control. When things are up in the air, I want to know where they are going to land. Then, I can start to make preparations and feel like I am helping. The truth is, nothing there is nothing that I can ever do to help the Lord. He has it all under control, and He needs me to be submissive and stay out of His way.

Daily we have a choice. We can kick and scream, or we can go along submissively with the Lord’s plan, because either way, it is going to happen. So today, let’s all say this prayer together and thank the Lord that He is in control and not us.

Matthew 6:9-13

After this manner therefore pray ye: Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name.
10 Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven.
11 Give us this day our daily bread.
12 And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.
13 And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever. Amen.

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  1. Sundays posts are always your very best ones. This particular one is the very best, and the hardest to live through. It sounds like the very thing I have lived through and felt. How wonderful to hear the great way you are handling it and seeing things as He would have you see them and not the bitter way the devil would have you see. Praying for you to have a truly blessed week.

    • Tania Reply

      Thanks for leaving a comment. I wish that I had handled it better in the beginning, instead of at the end.

  2. I also wanted to say that I received the teal corduroy pants from Walmart and love them. I was also wondering if you could style them with other tops on some future blog post. I just want to get the most use out of them that I can and found that I have difficulty knowing what goes good with them.

    • Tania Reply

      I ordered another pair for me since that pair was a little tight. When they arrive, I am sure that I will be styling them again.

  3. Diana Crabtree Reply

    Its very brave to admit we are not in control….and difficult “God is our refuge and strength, an ever present help in trouble”. Psalm 46:1 Knowing God is our refuge enables us to trust Him more freely. There is no situation we will ever face that is out of God’s control, so the best place to be,always , is right with Him. Every day I have to remind myself that God will take care of the big and small stuff!

    • Tania Reply

      Diana, I love the fact that HE is in control. I hate the fact that we still have to go through the storm. But, there is no one that I would rather go through it with than the Lord.

  4. Oh man, this hit home! Thank you for sharing. Yes, stepping aside and releasing the “control” we think we have is the best way to see God work in our lives. The valleys can feel so long and tiring but God has a purpose that I can’t yet see. God bless you!

    • Tania Reply

      I agree, Deborah. When you are in the valley, the mountains seem too tall to ever cross.

    • Thank you, Tania! So hard to know our part in difficult situations. I too know the Lord has it under control, but this “Martha” needs something to do during the storm, as my part. I’m a do’er by nature. Yet, as “Mary” shows up when I can’t any more. Trying to balance Mary & Martha on a teeter-todder! Blessed by YOU and your Sunday messages, always.

  5. Kelly Palmer Reply

    I am going through a very difficult time with health issues right now and it is so hard to not be able to control things. This is one of my absolute favorite songs and as I listened to it the tears flowed. Thank you so much for sharing this today.

    • Tania Reply

      Kelly, I am sorry that you are going through scary times. This song is one of my very favorite songs. I am saying a prayer right now for you.

  6. Kelly Palmer Reply

    Thank you for your prayers Tania! It is so very needed and very much appreciated right now!

  7. Donna Wood Reply

    A great message this week, Tania! You are so right….we have all been guilty of trying to manipulate situations to “get our way”. God’s will is always the best, whether we understand it or not. In this life, our site is very limited, but one day all will be revealed and we will finally “get it”. Have a beautiful week, sweet friend!

  8. Sometimes we have to “Be still and know and know that I am God.” Psalm 46:10 The context of this scripture is a war. God is asking all involved to STOP and realize that he is in control. I always thought it was to be meditative which is good also. After I trade the context I thought of it differently. Look it up. Have a great Sunday.

  9. I feel for you, Tania. I have been reminded to lean into the Lord’s plan for me. I, too, prayed and planned for something NOT to happen, but it did anyway and I am reminding myself again to trust in His plan — no matter what, or when — because my path has already been laid, even if I don’t know what it entails. Thank you for sharing what you’re going through. It somehow makes me feel like we’re in this together. Of course, that was probably part of God’s plan, too. 🙂 <3 Hugs and prayers being sent your way!

  10. I have found down through the years that God can turn those trials into a blessing if we just trust him. Every time I challenge God with my know better than thou attitude, I lose the debate. A beautiful reminder today to let go and let God.

  11. Amen to today’s post. It is hard sometimes to remember that thy will be done. I remind myself everyday. My prayers are that my son will know this one day

  12. WOW! Just WOW! I have been struggling this week just like this. You must have read my mind.

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