I have been in a cleaning, organizing, and purging mood. It all started when I watched a series of Netflix about cleaning and organizing your life. It is about a method called KonMari by Marie Kondo where she walks you through the steps to help you decide what you need to keep and then helps you learn how to make your space look nice and neat. One of the principles of her method is to look at an item and ask yourself, “does this give me joy?”I wondered why she would ask if the item gives you joy instead of asking, “does this item make you happy.” The reason is simple, happiness is an emotion that is fleeting, but joy is the what you feel down in your soul. Every purchase that I have ever made was made so in happiness. Buying cough drops, for example, made me happy that they would cure my cough. But, they do not make my soul joyful.

I think that this is kind of what they are talking about when you hear the phrase, “money can’t make you happy.” In reality, that phrase might not be entirely accurate since what you buy with money will make you happy. However, happiness can be fleeting; therefore you can be left feeling empty and dissatisfied. The thing isn’t that money can’t buy you happiness, it is that it can’t buy you joy.

The same applies when things might get tough. Tough times and situations can rob you of your happiness, but joy can remain. You can grieve but find joy at the same time. When my grandmother passed away a couple of years ago, I felt sad. I was mourning her, and my happiness left me. However, when I would think about staying at her house when I was young and her telling me bedtime stories, I felt joy. My happiness was still gone, but the joy of her memory and our time together made my soul joyful.

John 16:22

22 So with you: Now is your time of grief, but I will see you again and you will rejoice, and no one will take away your joy.

Now might be your time of grief. Your happiness might be hard to find, and you might even feel like you will never be happy again. But, if you sit back and think about your situation, I bet you can still find joy. Never forget the joy that a person brought to you because you are mourning what has been taken. If you let that happen, then you have lost your happiness and your joy.

Psalms 34:17-18

17 The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles. 18 The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

I will now have a different perspective when I look upon any object or situation. I can ask myself, did this give me joy, and if the answer is yes, then I have been blessed.

Have A Blessed Day!

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  1. IT will be why you might understand that in the last two years of being stolen from in the loss of my husband…..the more people took the lighter I felt. He gave me joy. it is my love bomb card” The people you love are lucky to have you” given to me by a non traditional provider and my grandmother’s letter to teach me to lead with my compassion that I walk with/cannot live without. My purge “was done” for me… but I am left with those higher gifts given to me through Kyle and our Lord

    • Tania Reply

      I am glad that you are able to look at the life you had with your husband with joy.

  2. Thank you for this post. It speaks to my heart. I lost my mother recently and sadness washes over me at unforeseen times. This spoke to my heart. Best…Kathy

    • Tania Reply

      Kathy, I am so thankful that I am blessed to have both of my parents. I can’t even imagine the sadness that you are feeling. I am happy that this post spoke to you today.

  3. So lovely and thoughtful, today’s post is such a good reminder of the difference in happiness and joy. Thank you, Tania! This post brought me joy.

    • Tania Reply

      Marie Kondo is a sweet little thing with a very gentle touch.

  4. Dana Buckingham Reply

    I lost my mom 21 years ago today. I’m sad that she’s not still here with us but thinking about her and our life brings me joy. With things it’s harder for me to differentiate between happiness and joy. Thank you for this challenge, Tania.

    • Tania Reply

      Dana, you are not the only who has a hard time figuring out the difference in happiness and joy.

  5. You don’t know how appropriate this post is for me. My sister lost her son last week in a terrible accident and we have been grieving so much for him and for her and her family. But when we were together amid the sorrow there was brief moments of joy in remembrance and being together. I’m going to share the verses with her and hope it will give her some comfort as they did me. Thank you.

    • Tania Reply

      Johnna, I am so sorry to hear about your nephew. The heartache is so fresh and raw. I know her son brought her tons of joy but it might be a while before she can remember those times without the sadness accompanying it.

      • Thank you Tania for replying. It is kind of you. And it will take time. Say a prayer for us.

  6. Your post today must have been meant for me. My mother had a stroke last week and lost a lot of her mental ability. We had to make the very hard choice to move her to a nursing facility, and my happiness has been very hard to find this week. Your words remind me to be joyful because I’ve been blessed in so many other ways. Thank you for your encouraging words. They were very helpful to me this morning.

    • Tania Reply

      I am sorry, Teresa. I know the decisions that you are having to make are hard and are made through love. Holding on to the joy that your mom has brought you through the years is something that you will be able to call upon at any time.

  7. My partners brother recently lost his wife at a very young 35 (she died from the flu..). I attended her funeral last week and the joy she brought to others within the congregation was nothing short of amazing. I had an epiphany and as a result attended church for the first time in 25 years yesterday. I feel blessed and your post emphasised my thoughts exactly.

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