50 IS NOT OLD | WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU SET OUTSIDE OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE | FASHION OVER 40Getting outside of your comfort zone is never easy, it is downright HARD. It is called comfort zone for a reason, that is where you are the most comfortable. For me, I have been someone who was reserved and stayed in the background. That doesn’t mean that I wanted to be in the background, it means that I was afraid to put myself in the foreground.50 IS NOT OLD | WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU SET OUTSIDE OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE | FASHION OVER 40 This entire past weekend in San Francisco, I just kept shaking my head and thinking, “who is this person and what did she do with Tania?” I hardly even recognize the person in the mirror staring back at me, and I wonder how I kept myself hidden even from myself for so long. When we arrived at the headquarters of R+F, we found out that they had rolled out the “red carpet,” literally. This was an amazing feeling, and I can’t imagine how movie stars feel getting that done for them all the time.50 IS NOT OLD | WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU SET OUTSIDE OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE | FASHION OVER 40 Even the small things, like getting to grab a quick photo in the office of Katie and Kathy made me feel like I could take on the world. These two women have made such a huge difference in the lives of so many people with their products. My own daughter used ProActiv when she was a teenager (I bet you know someone who used it too) and now they are helping us all to age gracefully. I am in awe how two women have had such a huge impact, and I wondered if we all had the ability inside of us. Maybe they believed more in stepping outside of their comfort zone.50 IS NOT OLD | WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU SET OUTSIDE OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE | FASHION OVER 40 This small group of ladies ranges in age from their early twenties to their late fifties. I might have been the oldest person at this event but who knows, they all use great skincare so you can’t tell anyone’s age. Lol! The personalities ranged from extroverted and confident to quite and subdued. Wasn’t this office space beautiful and did you catch a glimpse of that view?!?50 IS NOT OLD | WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU SET OUTSIDE OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE | FASHION OVER 40 This smaller group, minus one or two, are who I ended up bonding with and talking to the most. Do they look like me? Of course, the answer is no, but that didn’t stop us from having an amazing time laughing and dancing. (later in the post)50 IS NOT OLD | WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU SET OUTSIDE OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE | FASHION OVER 40There was a “celebration” dinner the last night we were there. Just looking at this table would have been enough to have sent me into fits in the past. Why? One of the phobias that I am working hard to overcome is the fear of rejection. What if I ask to sit down and they say they are saving the seats? What if no one comes and sits down beside me? What if I end up sitting here all by myself? Look around when you attend an event and see if someone looks alone and then invite them to join your party.50 IS NOT OLD | WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU SET OUTSIDE OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE | FASHION OVER 40 The dress for the evening was “Cocktail attire” so I proceeded to have a cocktail. Lol! I am not a huge drinker, and wine can make my face turn bright red, so I asked the bartender to add sprite to my drink. He found my “wine spritzer” hilarious and soon had me laughing with him. 50 IS NOT OLD | WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU SET OUTSIDE OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE | FASHION OVER 40Just look at these ladies for a few minutes, you will see many different ages, from all over the country and one from Canada, and many different styles. It just goes to show you that there is no right or wrong way to dress or to act. You need to be you and dress to suit your style. My dress is the most conservative of them but it was stylish, elegant, age-appropriate, and it fit me perfectly. Plus, it was the only dress in my closet that I hadn’t worn before and had sleeves. (somewhat) Lol!50 IS NOT OLD | WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU SET OUTSIDE OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE | FASHION OVER 40 These two were a barrel of fun, but I bet you guessed that already. We (EBF) rode in from the airport with the girl in green and learned about her dad (he was a major league starting pitcher) and her that her husband is in the minor leagues. The lady in the middle had her husband along for the trip and was headed to Napa Valley for a couple of days when this event was over. He went out to dinner with us one night and was extremely friendly.50 IS NOT OLD | WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU SET OUTSIDE OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE | FASHION OVER 40 Ladies that I had never seen before this trip are now friends that I am going to stay in touch with. I would have never gotten the chance to meet this sweet and beautiful lady if I had stayed home.
50 IS NOT OLD | WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU SET OUTSIDE OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE | FASHION OVER 40Dancing was part of the fun, and almost everyone joined in the activity. The music was over a wild variety of genres so there was something that everyone could relate to. I think the ladies were dancing to the Cupid Shuffle here, but I knew better than to dance to that song, it seems like it lasts forever. Lol!50 IS NOT OLD | WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU SET OUTSIDE OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE | FASHION OVER 40 So, as you can see, while getting outside of your comfort zone is not easy…it can be so rewarding. I am still a work in progress in this area, but at least I am progressing. I certainly look forward to many more growing experiences in the future.
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  1. What a lovely time you had with such lovely ladies. You certainly are an achiever. My stepping outside my comfort zone was the day I posted on my blog for the very first time. I pressed that enter button thinking how people were going to laugh at me and say “who does she think she is!” But with your help and my daughters encouragement I did it. I am slowly building up email followers but what surprises me most is when I look at the statistics and see people from all over the world are finding little old me. Thank you

    • Please know that you are not alone. I always worry about not knowing someone or sitting by myself at a party. It’s hard to take that leap of faith. More often, when I jump out there, I have a great time. Taking the plunge is tough, but worth it! Loved your post and outfits!

      • Tania Reply

        That is how I feel too, Suz. If I can make myself take the plunge it is so worth it in the end.

    • Tania Reply

      Jill, I had the same thoughts when I started the blog. I didn’t tell anyone that I had a blog, not even Joe. Fear is a horrible liar and we let it rule our lives.

  2. I’m glad you had a great time. I was smiling the whole time I was reading. I tend to stay in the background due to a fear of rejection also so I can definitely relate. You looked beautiful!!! And yes, my daughter and my nephew both used ProActiv. It was the only product that worked for either of them

    • Tania Reply

      I am glad that you enjoyed the post, Deb. I think that there are a lot of us background dwellers out there.

  3. Good morning! WOWEE ZOWEE! ❤️Your dress!😁To see you having fun with your pals makes me SO happy! What a great way to start the day! San Francisco is fabulous, more so, now! Great pictures! HUGE memories to last a lifetime! Goof on YOU, Missy Tania! XOXO

    • Tania Reply

      Thanks, Annie. We had so much fun and it was great getting to meet new ladies.

  4. what a great experience! so glad you enjoyed your time there. you looked amazing. How fun!

  5. Kim Dushinski Reply

    Such a great post to celebrate your accomplishments! I am going to a cocktail attire party tomorrow. I’m wearing gold pants, a black top with an asymmetrical hem line and red suede pumps. Hope it looks as good at the event as I think it does when previewing it in my house.

    • Tania Reply

      Kim, the outfit sounds amazing. Have fun at the party!!!

  6. michelle johnson Reply

    Oh, Tania I am still like the “old” you. I’m trying very hard to get out of my comfort zone it’s hard………..I love both of your dresses.

    • Tania Reply

      Michelle, I would have found that hard to believe. I see your pictures at ballgames, etc. and you look very outgoing.

  7. Maggie Fieger Reply

    You make it sound very enticing ! I started getting out of my comfort zone in my 40’s but I’ve never been able to close sales well!

    • Tania Reply

      Maggie, I am not a salesperson. Some of you might say otherwise, but, what I try to do is tell you about myself or others. I try to share my experiences in the hopes that they will help others. I am not trying to sell you anything, I want to help you instead.

  8. What a fun trip!! Good for you. I still struggle with stepping out of comfort zone and I’m an outgoing person. Strange, huh?! You are encouraging me. Thanks. Lovely cocktail dress by the way. You look stunning in it

    • Tania Reply

      Johnna, I don’t know if the struggle ever leaves us. It is the fear of rejection, the devil telling us that we are not good enough.

    • kim granzella Reply

      You say you are not a salesperson, and that is what I think makes you special. You are not the least bit pushy! Actually, it is because of seeing you and how good you look that had me hooked on the R & F. I tend to run more towards skeptical when anything new comes into or near! Talk about fear! Sheesh, you are inspiring. Keep up the good work!!! You look fab darling!!!! Just saying…….

      • Tania Reply

        I love this, Kim!!! It made my day to hear you say this!!!!

    • Tania Reply

      I had so much fun and in the past, I would have been sitting by myself and “wishing” that someone would come and talk to me.

  9. Judy Stallings Reply

    You at the bar with the wine spritzer…WOW! Stunning! The whole pic (including you) looked like a set from a movie!!! ❤️❤️❤️

  10. Always love it when you share about your trips! Thanks, Tania! And congratulations on your R&F achievements!

  11. Bev Ridenhour Reply

    I loved your pictures and all that you had to say today about getting out of your comfort zone!!! I am so excited that my name was chosen as one of the winners!!!! Can’t wait to receive my mini-facial!!! Awesome!!! Thank you Tania!!!

  12. Charlcy L Green Reply

    Oh I can relate to o many of your statements about “what if no one sits w/me, etc.” but I too have had to get out of my comfort zone thru church activities. I doubt I would ever be brave enough to go where you’ve gone & do what you’ve done. Plus I would never have something important to say everyday to followers like you do! We all look forward to your post everyday! This one was fantastic & let us live vicariously thru you at a very lavioush, fun event! You & your EBF look like you’re having a blast! And are GORGEOUS!

  13. kim granzella Reply

    Darn it Tania!!!

    I wish I would have known you were down in San Francisco!!!!! I know you were probably busy, but I work in the city on Thursdays and sometimes on Wednesdays!!! I could of at least met you!!!!!

    Looks like you had a fab time!! You look terrific. I do not always check my email regularly so I guess I should of known you were going to be in Cali!!!!!..

    Next time…..please please please let me know. You have my cell number. You can text me ahead of time and we can at least meet for a cup of coffee!!!!

    With love and thanks for your inspiration!!!! Who knows….some day I might be doing the same thing as you for R & F!!!!

    Kim Granzella
    Napa, California

    • Tania Reply

      Dang it, Kim, I wish that I had known you were close. It probably wouldn’t have worked out anyway since I didn’t get into town until after 9:00 pm on Thursday. I hope that isn’t my last trip to San Francisco, so the next time we HAVE to meet.

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