The other day I got my morning email from Proverbs 31 Ministries. It was one that struck a chord with me and I wanted to talk about this subject today. The message was on the house of mirrors and how we view ourselves. On yesterday’s blog post, I showed you 2 pictures of myself. One was me and the other was a photoshopped me. As much as I tried I could not make myself say that the real me was the better of the 2 photos. I really liked and wanted to be the altered version.

What do you see in the mirror? Are you your worst critic? I know that when I look in the mirror, I am always picking out my flaws. Why do we do this? Do men do this, too?

It all starts in the morning when I am putting on my makeup. I use one of the 5X magnification mirrors to apply all my makeup, and that really, really, shows everything. Your pores look huge in those things! There is not a wrinkle, or fine line, that won’t show up. After that wonderful experience, I move on to the changing my clothes phase, in front of two huge mirrors in the bathroom. I have tried to put my clothes on with the lights turned off, but I couldn’t find my things. Lol!  There is just nothing good that is going to come from standing in front of a mirror in your bra and panties. NOTHING!

But why do we feel this way? I read a story once about this lady. She is quite famous in some circles, but I am not going to mention her name. She talks about how she was never considered a beauty. She said she is short in stature, rotund in girth, has frizzy unruly hair, and just overall not a classical beauty type. (Her inside is pure gold) One day, she was having makeup applied, and the makeup artist commented that this woman had perfect lips. She was thrilled because she now had something of a physical nature that made her proud. She said from that moment on, she always thought about her perfect lips as she applied her lipstick.

We all have something that makes us unique and special. Do we even take the time to acknowledge this? My husband has many fine qualities, but one I have always envied is his perfectly formed feet. He has those toes that go from little to big in perfect form. I have the type where the toe, next to the big toe, is longer. I like his better. Haha!  Maybe you have a graceful neck, your eyes are beautiful, or you have long fingers. It can be a multitude of things.

The problem with ALL of this is that we are looking at our outward appearance and not what is on the inside. I loved the scriptures quoted in the Proverbs 31 email so I am going to share those with you.

You are a saint. (Ephesians 1:1)
You are chosen. (Ephesians 1:11)
You are dearly loved. (Colossians 3:12)
You are holy. (Colossians 1:22)

While I may see my outward appearance, the Lord see’s my inward one. I want both of them to be beautiful.

Your homework is to look in the mirror each day for your best asset, inside and well as outside. Acknowledge how wonderful you are in your own unique way. THEN, I want you to tell a friend, or a family member, what you think their best asset is. You will probably make their day.

Have A Blessed Day!!!

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  1. You have been reading some info. shared by Liz Curtis Hicks. We have just finished her book “It’s Good To Be Queen” in our Lydia Circle Bible Study. An excellent study. Don’t you just love her?She is so exuberant in sharing her love and faith of our Lord Jesus Christ. I can learn a lot from that precious Christian Lady.
    You have a wonderful blog. I so enjoy your Sunday series. You offer ” food for thought” for my week. Thank you for sharing your faith so freely to your “sister’s in Christ.”

    • Tania Reply

      Kaye, Liz Curtis Higgs was the lady talking about the perfect lips in my post. She said she had never had anyone comment that any part of her was beautiful before.

  2. Gosh this is a hard one! What do I see in the mirror, well I guess I am looking for the 20 year old me which no longer exists. I then see someone who is outwardly confident but inside shy. My guess is that people would not describe me like this as they would see an outgoing personality who gets on with what they like doing and not someone who would like to be asked to be included. I try to be kind to others and treat people as I would like to be treated and hope I never hut anyone with words.

    • Tania Reply

      It is true that the way we view ourselves and the way others see us is usually totally different.

    • Tania Reply

      Me too, Ramona. I need this almost daily when I get dressed.

  3. What a great challenge. I have a tendency to pick out all my flaws…and everyone else’s. Lol. Complaining is an easy habit to fall into. I don’t think that’s why we are truly here.

  4. I am guilty of seeing my flaws. I think smiling makes everyone look better, sometimes I will be engrossed in something and feel all serious. I am trying to work on having a smile, as I am in the old habits too much and can feel myself frowning at times. Smile!!! Lol

    • Tania Reply

      I know what you mean. I do that in my voice also. It sounds grouchy sometimes when I am really just trying to concentrate.

  5. I subscribe to Proverbs31 too and that one struck a chord with me too. That’s something I struggle with everyday. Thanks for your blog and especially your Sunday additions, love them!

    • Tania Reply

      I love Proverbs 31. I like how they tell life stories to make their point because I can resonate with them. Thanks for taking the time to leave a comment.

  6. Tania, thank you for this thought provoking post. For many years I’ve looked in the mirror and saw an obese woman. It was heart-wrenching and my list of flaws endless. Over the past 17 months I have lost 87 pounds with about 10 left to go. I feel amazing! When I look in the mirror the sleek & firm 20 yr old is long gone. What I see today is a body less than perfect. I have learned to love that gal in the mirror. The body I see gave birth (wow!). This person in the mirror before and now had the courage, strength and perseverance to succeed at this weight loss journey. She goes to the gym and works hard to build back muscle tone. She attends Zumba, something impossible only a year ago. She does daily Tai Chi for strength, calmness and inner peace. Gal in the mirror is much smarter and wiser than the sleek 20 yr version. She’s smarter because, with God’s good help, she has made this journey. She’s learned patience. She’s become less judgmental. I look in the mirror and I see all of the “me” versions over the years and love them all. Lesson: Look hard at that gal in the mirror friends, more than likely, she’s a beautiful warrior inside & out. Have a blessed day all.

    • Tania Reply

      Kathy, you are amazing!!! How inspirational and encouraging! I love that you have learned how to make your outer beauty match your inner beauty and have enjoyed the journey along the way!!!

    • Thank you Kathy for your comment. It has made me stop and realize that even my so called flaws are part of me and my journey and have made me who I am today by the grace of God. I wouldn’t trade by laugh lines for anything.

  7. Dana Buckingham Reply

    Great reminder, Tania! I don’t really like looking in the mirror either. I need to remember what God says about me!

  8. Charlcy L Green Reply

    Beautiful lesson! Thank you! One of your best features is your exuberant joy in sharing your real self with us!

  9. This is why there is no mirror in the room i get dressed in. I would spend most of my time picking myself apart be late for work and in a bad mood. Not good! Thank you for this. I love your style but most of all I love your heart for Jesus

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