Have you ever taken a personality quiz? There are all kinds of them available on the internet. I had mentioned them to my sister because I was trying to find out what my strengths and weakness were. She said that she had already taken one and had found out that she was an includer. I had never heard of an “includer” and wasn’t really for sure what they meant. When we hung up the phone I took a test and found out that I was an includer also. According to Gallup.com, here are some of these traits:

“Stretch the circle wider.” This is the philosophy around which you orient your life. You want to include people and make them feel part of the group. In direct contrast to those who are drawn only to exclusive groups, you actively avoid those groups that exclude others. You want to expand the group so that as many people as possible can benefit from its support. You hate the sight of someone on the outside looking in. You want to draw them in so that they can feel the warmth of the group. You are an instinctively accepting person. Regardless of race or sex or nationality or personality or faith, you cast few judgments. Judgments can hurt a person’s feelings. Why do that if you don’t have to? Your accepting nature does not necessarily rest on a belief that each of us is different and that one should respect these differences. Rather, it rests on your conviction that fundamentally we are all the same. We are all equally important. Thus, no one should be ignored. Each of us should be included. It is the least we all deserve.

I wasn’t sure how being an “includer” was a strength but I am really glad that it was a part of my personality. I have a phobia about walking into a room by myself and having to find a place to sit. I even hated having to go to church if I didn’t know that someone was going to be there that I could sit with. I started keeping the scorebooks at ballgames for my children because then I knew I had a place that I had to sit and I didn’t have to “intrude” on anyone in the stands. I got up the nerve once to attend a breakfast by myself at a woman’s club function that I was attending. I walked in and the place was packed so I immediately started to panic. I looked and looked and I finally spotted two spots at two separate tables. I didn’t know a soul in the place but I walked up and asked if that spot was taken. Both times I was told that they were saving the seat for a friend. I admit that I was devastated. This event has been replayed over and over in my mind and I wonder what I would have done. I would have said, “that seat is taken, but let’s find a chair to pull over and you can join us.”

1 Peter 4:10-11 says, 10 Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms. 11 If anyone speaks, they should do so as one who speaks the very words of God. If anyone serves, they should do so with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ. To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever. Amen.

The Lord has given each one of us a talent or a gift. You might not even be aware what your gift is but it is there. If you don’t know what your talent is then maybe you can take one of the free tests offered online. After you discover your gift then you need to figure out how you can use it best to glorify the Lord. I am hoping that my “includer” attitude is best used with my Sunday posts and that I am “including” all of you in a walk with the Lord.

Shout out your talent, give God the glory!

Have a Blessed Day!


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  1. I am also an includer. I don’t like to see people excluding others based on looks,race,personality,etc. We should always do what is pleasing to the Lord… love your neighbor! Always walking in Wisdom and doing what is Right.

  2. I just LOVE you… and in the most sisterly way possible! You can sit at my table anytime!

    • Tania Reply

      Thanks, Susan. It is nice to know there will be an available spot.

  3. Thank you Tania! I Went through my earlier years afraid of being excluded. It took me a while but with the help of God and my own personal experiences, I became an “ Includer”. Thank you for reminding others how just a few extra words to a response can change another person’s life.
    Bless you for sharing

  4. Wonderful post, Tania! Thank you for blessing us and giving Him the credit ❤️

  5. I learn so much from your Sunday posts. “That chair is taken,” is totally what I would have said. From here on out, I will be adding, “But let’s see if we can pull another chair over and you can join us.” What a simple and gracious thing; but I’m usually so wrapped up in my own head and my own insecurities in those situations that it just has never occurred to me to do that. Thank you for this excellent example.

    • Thank you for a very encouraging post. I praise God for your blog ❤️

    • Tania Reply

      Sandra, I know what you mean about being self-involved. I am guilty of that also. Joe is much more giving and kind than I ever am but it is not because I “wouldn’t” do it, it is because it doesn’t even occur to me to do it. I am trying to become more aware and I pray for the Lord to open my eyes and my heart.

  6. Me, too! ❤️ You!

    Blessings, Always! Hope your Momma got home, safe and sound! 🙏🏻👼🏻

    • Tania Reply

      She just messaged me that she is now home. Thanks for asking.

  7. Thank you! This is such an enlightening post! I’ve never taken a test as such! God bless you and your sweet heart!

  8. Tania, your post today was so inspiring. I love your response to the person asking if a seat at your table is taken — oh my goodness how very welcoming that is!!! It’s so intimidating for me to walk into a room of strangers, let alone find a place to sit. You are a true joy and I hope someday to be asked to sit at your table!!! I’m going to remember that when I’m the one being asked that question!!!

    • Tania Reply

      Beth, if EVERYONE took the attitude of inviting strangers to join them then it wouldn’t be near as scary to walk into a room not knowing anyone there.

  9. I love this post. Actually I love most of your posts and have saved many. I’m relatively new to Pinterest and learning how to find things and this is my first reply. I am enjoying you as well as Susan after60 and Grace&Beauty. Thank you for sharing your life experiences, thoughts and fashion ideas.

    • Tania Reply

      Thanks, Ruth for your first reply. I love getting my messages, they are what keeps me going. Susan and Cindy are GREAT bloggers and I am honored to even be mentioned in the same category with them.

  10. Teri Getler Matthews Reply

    Tania there will always be a spot for you at any table I am out!

  11. I love your blog!! I just discovered it yesterday and spent most of my day reading instead of Saturday chores. I just started back to full time work and my wardrobe is tired. Great inspiration, esp the accessories! Love your finger and toe nails, do you do them yourself? Can you share nail polish brand and color? I love OPI! Also curious about being a Stylist for Plunder Design, can I email you a few questions?

  12. This is good Tania. We all need to be mindful of letting the light of Jesus shine. Like you it would’ve taken everything I had to go to an event by myself and then to have the courage to ask about the open seats and be shut down? Ugh……so sorry you had to experience that and it makes my heart hurt for you just thinking about it.

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