It was a long drive from Virginia to Marietta, Georgia this weekend. It takes at least 6 hours to get to my sister’s house, and that is without stopping to shop along the way or eating. Sandy and I talked the entire way about a little bit of everything. It is wonderful when you are comfortable with a person and it makes the trip go so much faster.
We talked about politics, our children, work, our husbands, and a wide variety of other topics. We got to talking about one of our friends who has it “all.” When you look at this person you see good looks, a wonderful spouse, great children, lots of money, etc. It is like driving by a beautiful house and wondering about the people who live inside.
Here is what I have learned. EVERYBODY has problems! Some problems are easily visible, like physical or mental health issues. Other problems can be hidden, and you might not even be aware they exist. How many people do you know that have a huge house, fancy cars, and expensive clothing, but are up to their neck in debt? What about a child or woman that is abused mentally and made to feel worthless?
I was guilty of making an assumption about my friend who had it all. However, I found out that it has not always been easy for my friend. A strained relationship with the parents has resulted in no communication in months. Finances have not always been great, and there have been times when it was almost non-existent. Thankfully my friend was a strong person and was able to weather all the storms, but there are plenty of people who crumble under the pressure.
You might have seen a commercial on television where a man was suddenly able to see what everyone was thinking. One was worried about their aging parents, one a marriage that was faltering, one was broke and worried about paying the electric bill, and one was suffering abuse at the hands of his father. From the outside, none of these problems were visible.
The scars that a person carries with them are not always visible. Some scars might be new and raw, while others have healed but the hurt still remains. I need to have a little more compassion and a little more patience. I need to judge less by the outward appearance and quit making assumptions. I hope others will grant me the same consideration.
Have a blessed Sunday!