Sunday, May 22, 2016

50 Is Not Old | KindnessKindness, a simple act that can mean so much. In church last Sunday our Preacher talked about kindness, and then in my woman’s study group, we once again talked on the same subject. That was twice in one 2 hour period of time. Kindness is not something that costs a lot of money, and it is easily given. So why would my Preacher and Sunday school teacher both feel the need to have a lesson plan based around the subject?

If you saw my post on Wednesday, you read about me talking about negativity. I had a couple of anonymous commenters that left less than kind comments. That is not a random occurrence. I have heard many bloggers talk about this same issue. Celebrities experience unkind comments on a regular basis. Is this because people on the internet, or on television and movies, don’t seem like “real” people?

Do you practice kindness is your daily life? How many of us will let someone pull in front of us when you are in a long line of traffic? How about when you see someone with only a few items in the checkout line at the grocery store? We can extend small acts of kindness easily, so why do we let the enemy bring out the worst in us?

There has been a small movement recently, where strangers “pay it forward.” I have only experienced this once in my life, and I was shocked when it happened. I was traveling to a woman’s club meeting, and I had to go on a toll road. When I pulled up to pay my toll, the toll booth worker handed me a slip of paper that said someone had paid my toll. I thanked them, gave them my toll and told them to pay the driver’s toll behind me. I have no idea how many other drivers in the line did the same thing.

A small act of kindness can create a large ripple. This week lets start the ripple. Let’s send waves of kindness across the world. I would love for you to share acts of kindness that you have received or forwarded to someone else. It would be inspirational, and others might like to extend the same acts in other parts of the country.

I leave you with a prayer written by Mary Stewart in 1904. This is the woman’s club collect that is recited at every woman’s club meeting I attend.

Keep us, O God, from pettiness;
let us be large in thought, in word, in deed.

Let us be done with fault-finding and
leave off self-seeking.

May we put away all pretense and meet each
other face to face — without self-pity
and without prejudice.

May we never be hasty in judgment and
always generous.

Let us take time for all things;
make us to grow calm, serene, gentle.

Teach us to put into action our better impulses,
straightforward and unafraid.

Grant that we may realize it is the little
things that create differences,
that in the big things of life we are at one.

And may we strive to touch and to know the great,
common human heart of us all, and
O Lord God, let us forget not to be kind!

–Mary Stewart

Have a blessed weekend!

Please follow and like me:
No tags 37 Comments
37 Responses
  • Barb
    May 22, 2016

    I love your sunday posts !!! Although i will never be able to attend your womens group, i feel that i am there listening and learning as the other women are,, thanks to your blog ….it will be a goal of mine to follow this weeks lesson ❤️

  • Barb
    May 22, 2016

    ….and , I have printed out your posted prayer so i can remember to say it prior to reading your Sunday blog

  • Lynneferd
    May 22, 2016

    Thank you for the words of Mary Stewart. I intend to use them as a daily reminder of how I want to be always. We do live in a snarky world and it is good to remember not to fall into that behavior.
    I love the yellow and blue. I have a sweater in a similar yellow and need to wear it more. You’ve given me a good idea!

  • Alyson
    May 22, 2016

    That’s a beautiful poem, Tania.
    Thank you for sharing it.

    I hope you and yours have a great week. 🙂

  • Susie
    May 22, 2016

    My husband and I were eating dinner at an upscale reastaurent in the Fairmont Banff Springs and the the young couple sitting next to us were celebrating their new engagement. I overheard the young lady tell the waiter to let them know when they got to half the bottle, that was all they afford. I looked at my husband and told him what was going on, he got up and took the waiter aside and told him to put the entire bottle on our bill so they could enjoy the celebration, and please not tell them who did it. We just smiled when they were excited to finish the bottle and so enjoyed the rest of our dinner too! Kindness does feel good. I live your blog, keep up the great work!!!!

    • Tania
      May 22, 2016

      The same type thing happened to my son and his family. He, his wife, and their three children were all eating out at a restaurant. When then finished and went to pay, someone had already taken care of the bill. My husband does this all the time. As we go to pay, he will ask for the bill of someone, and pay for both bills.

  • Nancys Fashion Style (@nancybaten1)
    May 22, 2016

    Your post is a good way to start my Sunday with! Thank you.

  • Joanne Scantlevury
    May 22, 2016

    What a beautiful poem. Nice way to end Sunday, set me up for a kindness filled week😊

  • Patti
    May 22, 2016

    Thank you for this post. Inspirational.

  • Hanka
    May 22, 2016

    Thank you for remembering such an important thing that kindness undoubtedly is. This morning I had been really sleep-deprived (our 8mth old girl has a teeth-growth period) and I made a rude comment towards my husband (that he absolutely did not deserved). Then I had a breakfast during which I read your todays post. And I was totally ashamed. I came to my husband, gave him a huge hug (that is really difficult when he is a head taller than me :)) and apologized for myself being so bitchy (sorry for that word, but I realy felt like this). So thank you again, you saved our morning 🙂

    • Tania
      May 22, 2016

      Awww. That is so sweet. We do strike out at those closest to us. I am sure your husband appreciated the heartfelt apology. Thanks so much for sharing.

  • Carmen
    May 22, 2016

    Love this post! Have a blessed Sunday!!

  • Sandra Dyer Bendig
    May 22, 2016

    Hi Tania! I have just started following your blog and love all of your fashion choices! I wanted to tell you about my pay it forward experience a few days ago. I was at a McDonald’s drive thru for a cup of coffee and when I reached the window the cashier said that the car in front had paid for my order. She said that was the 3rd car in line that had done that! Well of course I did the same for the car behind me. I could tell that this young cashier was touched by all of this and it brought tears to my eyes. Something so simple but yet how many lives did that act of kindness touch that day at a McDonald’s drive thru! Thank you for your uplifting post and great blog!!

  • Vickie Yount
    May 22, 2016

    Beautiful post!

  • a vanderven
    May 22, 2016

    love to read your posts every day but especially on Sunday…

  • Linda
    May 22, 2016

    Thank you for being that positive light! I wrote out the prayer and I’ll put it in my Circle book. Have a great week!

  • Tina
    May 22, 2016

    Thank you Tania for sharing the prayer! I too have copied it to hang where I can see it as I get ready daily! You are such an inspiration to all of us.
    Love the yellow and blue outfit!
    Have a wonderful Sunday !

  • Lina
    May 22, 2016

    Beautiful! Have a blessed Sunday.

  • Ruth Hamel
    May 22, 2016

    Mary Stewart’s words – good for home, church, and country. Thank you for sharing them.

  • sue
    May 22, 2016

    What a wonderful post! Thanks!!

  • Connie R.
    May 22, 2016

    Thank you for that gentle reminder. I my self have observed that we are becoming more robotic than thinking sometimes. Working with the public I see people who come in angry to the store and expect the worse. I treat them with sincere kindness and have been told on one or more occasions how they didn’t expect my type of customer service. I treat people as I wish to be treated. Sometimes its hard to love the unlovable but God teaches us that. Can I get an amen sister! Enjoy your Sunday!

    • Tania
      May 22, 2016

      It is hard working with the public. But, a person behind the counter can change the attitude of all that she comes in contact with.

  • Debs Voorhees
    May 22, 2016

    My mum and also a friend are both in care homes, so i spend a good bit of time at these 2 facilities. It is much easier to avert the gaze and walk quickly by people in the grips of end of life conditions, of physical and mental challenges of all sorts. But, i find i can’t do that as i once did when i was younger. Now i try to catch an eye, share a smile, give an easy complement on a pretty colour. In the grocery stores i will often strike up a conversation with a wee one about their pretty dress or fancy shoes asking if i might have them when the little girl is done with them! Never fails to bring a laugh. My favourite is the pretty colour complement to an obviously worn out mum with small kids in tow at the end of the day on a Friday dragging them and groceries out to the car. Light often comes back into the eyes.
    In all this i haven’t spent anything but a moment. My heart, which has taken a right battering these last few years, feels better and so do i.
    Happy Sunday, Tania and friends. Thanks for sharing these few moments of your kindness and warmth with us. Travel safely. debs xx

    • Tania
      May 22, 2016

      Your are right Debs. I visited with my Grandmother on Saturday. She will be 103 in August, and many of the people that are in these homes are so lonely. Thank you for taking the time to make their day a little better

  • Bobbi Jones
    May 22, 2016

    Thank you for this post….Always a good reminder and life goal. <3

  • Carrie
    May 22, 2016

    Very true, Tania! Thank you for sharing your heart.

  • Noreen
    May 22, 2016

    I just found you this morning when I googled “fashion for old ladies” on pinterest. I’m 56 and am frustrated with seeing fashion advice for the size 2 group. I didn’t realize when I started reading how your blog and blog replies would touch me. Thank you all for way more than fashion ideas.

  • Gina D from McKinney
    May 22, 2016

    Thank you for reminding us to all be kind. It really does make a huge difference in people’s lives.

    My husband and I were putting gas one day and there was a young man in a pretty beaten up car. He was dressed nice. He had his hood up and was talking to another man. I guess the man was telling him he needed a battery and the young man looked upset.

    My husband and I agreed to give him $100. We were going out to buy stuff for our house – things that we could certainly do without or wait on.

    I watched from our vehicle as my husband gave him the money. The young man looked so shocked and so thankful. He started crying. My husband hugged him and told him God loved him. They chatted for a moment and my husband got in our car.

    My husband told me the young man hag just moved from a small town where there were no jobs. He was on his way to a job he had just gotten and was afraid if he didn’t make it they might fire him. The money we gave him would allow him to buy a battery so he could get to work.

    Even though we were able to help him we received the bigger blessing. Just being able to help some random person.

    The act of kindness doesn’t even have to involve money. Just a smile, holding the door for someone, even a have a blessed day – will lighten up someones face.

    May God bless each and every one of you.

  • Knella (@knella)
    May 22, 2016

    Do you mean “let us not forget to be kind?”

  • Eileen
    May 22, 2016

    I have just recently started following you on a regular basis. I love your sense of humor, your positive attitude and thoughts, your sense of style and your self confidence. Your posts are fabulous and I look forward to see what each new day brings ! You go girl !!!!! And thanks for being such a bright spot in all our days ! God bless you !

  • Diane Mitchell
    May 22, 2016

    Your message is sweet and I like to view your daily outfits. Of course, I like some more than others. But it does occur to me that to continue to dwell on those things that are not of God and not what we believe about ourselves, like bad manners/comments, makes those things real in our lives and gives them permission to rent space in our mind. If I accept every person’s opinion about myself, I am allowing them define who I am.

  • Sandi
    May 22, 2016

    Thank you for sharing you with us! We should all strive to encourage each other everyday and love each other. That is what Jesus would have us do! Love and prayers!

  • Loryl
    May 22, 2016

    In my local woman’s club we have a “Kelly Award” that honors a member that displays the essence of one of our deceased members. That honoree is given a stipend to “pay it forward” in Kelly’s honor. I love the stories of how these members have helped others. My husband and I do this often. Usually for young families or veterans. But especially waitresses. My son does this a lot at McDonalds and Starbucks! He loves to look in the mirror and see their happy reaction.

  • Debbie Z.
    May 23, 2016

    Thank you for today’s post about kindness. A good reminder, for sure. A few years ago I had a major surgery and we were financially strapped at the time. In the mail one day, my husband and I received a money order for $500 in an unsigned Get Well card. To this day we don’t know who sent the money. Of course we speculated about who it might have been- possibly a relative or someone from our church, but we still don’t know. What I haven’t forgotten was the kindness and selflessness extended to us in our time of need. God is so good and sometimes I am overwhelmed by the loving kindness extended through his people. Thank you, Tania, for your blog. It is a blessing and a breath of fresh air.

  • Lynneferd
    May 24, 2016

    Tania, just another note to let you know how much I appreciate your posting the Mary Stewart collect. I’ve referred to it several times to remind myself how I want to live my life.

    • Tania
      May 25, 2016

      Thank you so much. It is a beautiful poem/prayer. If we can only try to live by those beautiful words.

  • Elizabeth
    May 28, 2016

    I really enjoy your blog. I like the outfits you choose; but, more importantly, I love your attitude and how you approach life. Keep it up!

Leave a Reply